YOUNG-WOMEN Messages for August, 2003: Re: abortion question.....scared!

Re: abortion question.....scared!

From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Wed, 13 Aug 2003 23:14:38 -0500 (CDT)

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I am going to be honest with you about my experience. You may not want to hear all of it. I hope you have the courage to read it. Though certain people know I had an abortion I had never spoken about it.

I was interviewed and a sonogram of my baby was taken. I was told it was safe. I was at a perfectly safe clinic that was licensed to do what they do. I was told not to feel guilty that it wasn't a baby. I could see SHE was obviously one on the monitor.

A woman said she was going to put some pegs into my vagina and these would kill the fetus and for me to come back the following day to have the fetus removed. So I had my pegs in there and I went home.

I sat there all night long trying not to think about it. I was "killing the fetus" as the woman put it. I thought about running to the ER and having the pegs removed, but I didnt. I felt alot of things that night that I can't explain.

The next day they put me to sleep. I woke up, they said it was done. On a bed for 3 hours and took a taxi home. I bled a bit but nothing too bad. I went on about my life.

I have thought about the fetus that I now consider my daughter. A daughter that I chose to kill. I will live with that forever. I wonder if she would've looked like my new daughter.

After having my new daughter, I had to have an emergency hysterectomy. I never told my doc that I had an abortion. I am sure I was damaged but, no one knows for sure.

Im not telling you not to do it, but you seem concerned about having sex after your abortion. You should be asking other serious questions to your doc and to yourself. Is it realy what YOU want to do? Can you live with whatever the outcome may be? Can you move on? Are you sure? What if its the only chance you have to have a child? No matter how safe the surgery, other factors in life may prevent any future children. Can you live knowing that you chose to get rid of the one you had a chance to have?

-- Dont answer these questions here, answer them in your heart and mind. They are only for you to know.

The decision is yours to make. There are good reasons for having one and good reasons not to. I will tell you this though and so will others, ABORTION IS NOT TO BE USED AS BIRTH CONTROL! Please, if you go through with this and even if you don't, protect yourself the next time you have intercourse. Think long and hard about this PERMANENT decision! YOU CAN NOT TAKE IT BACK!

I have one living beautiful daughter and another in heaven and that was at my hands.

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