YOUNG-WOMEN Messages for May, 2003: Re: Gyn visit- how do i answer sexual active ?

Re: Gyn visit- how do i answer sexual active ?

From: anon (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 15 May 2003 09:19:04 -0500 (CDT)

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At Wed, 14 May 2003, ack! wrote: >
>I know neither of us have any stds (both virgins) so thats not the
>issue. Its just, I wanna tell my gyn, because I know withholding infor
>is NOT GOOD, but i don't know how to word it. It seems a little
>embarassing. While I know they see this all the time, just a little
>help easing the embarassment would be good. what exactly do I say?!

>You might try saying "it's sort of hard for me to talk about this; we haven't progressed to intercourse yet, but have had advanced foreplay (or have tried other things). In my experience, doctors will realize it's hard for you to talk about it,and perhaps will ask you if the foreplay includes oral, and they'll respond in a way that puts you at ease. Just say yes and move on to the next topic. If you find after this visit that this doctor isn't the right one to talk to, you might want to search for one who is really comfortable to talk to. Maybe it sounds almost like a cliche, but your doctor is your partner in healthcare. As the years go by, being able to talk to the doctor will help solve problems that otherwise go unsolved because of embarrassment.

I hope this helps; hopefully others will come along with other suggestions.

>At Mon, 12 May 2003, anon wrote:
>>
>>At Sun, 11 May 2003,
>>>>
>>>>I have never had intercourse, but my boyfriend has fingered me and has
>>>>gone down on me a few times. So when asked if i am sexually active, is
>>>>thsi a yes? or do i say i have never had intercourse but...
>>>>blahblahblah. Next...it just seems embarassing to say I have had oral
>>>>sex. I do not know why but it is. No lectures about safety please,
>>>>part of the reason I am going in is to get BCP. (mostly to regulate my
>>>>periods though, which is why my gyn wants me on them)
>>>
>>>Since you can get a sexually transmitted disease through oral sex, you should answer truthfully for the sake of your health. I think your doctor will realize that intercouse is a very likely next step. Don't be embarrassed at all- yuor doctor hears this all the time.

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mom2b

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