YOUNG-WOMEN Messages for October, 2002: Re: Will Someone Please Listen?

Re: Will Someone Please Listen?

From: Sarah (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 31 Oct 2002 12:37:13 -0600 (CST)

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Since you are only 24, doctors are right to be skeptical of your current belief that you not only do not want to have children now, but will never want them.

You are just barely an adult. Doctors are generally a good bit older than that, and have personal experience to guide them on how many choices made at 24 can be laughed at - or deeply regretted - with time and life experience. Time changes things. Permanent, irrevocable destruction of your ability to reproduce is the biggest life-affecting choice you can make short of suicide. And you are very young.

I'm 40. I'm warning you. What you believe in your bones at 24 is subject to change.

If you still feel the same way at thirty, or have a child in the interim, I suppose any doctor would be more inclined to help you close that door permanently.

Since you are childless and only 24, even though you believe yourself certain, any doctor with a shred of wisdom about human nature is going to back off from you.

I can understand the frustration with birth control. But I am strongly cautioning you to wait a few years before making such an irrevocable choice.

30 Oct 2002, Mary Frost wrote: >
>I have done a lot of thinking for several years now and I have decided
>that I do not ever want children. My body doesn't react well with the
>hormones in birth control. Depo was extreamly harsh on my mental and
>physical well being. I wish a doctor would listen and not dismiss me
>when I say I do not want children now or ever. I cannot speak with my
>current OBGYN about this issue because she is against me even thinking
>of using an IUD because of infertility. I am looking for any doctor who
>would simply listen to my request for permanent birth control such as a
>tubal. I understand the risks involved and I am more than willing to
>take them. I am a mentally and physically healthy 24 year old trying to
>make the best choice for me. I have analyzed this decision in every
>possible way, for several years, and decided my job here on earth is not
>to make babies. I know without a doubt I do not want children and I
>will have no regrets. Any response would be greatly appreciated. Thank
>You

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