Re: Is pain normal?
From: John Essien, M.D. (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sat, 27 Jul 2002 19:14:34 -0500 (CDT)
I would suggest first you see your gynecologist to discard the
possibility that you have an anatomical cause for the pain; I am
supposing that you still have an intact hymenal membrane; a therapist
would help lay rest to your hidden fears, in the eventuality that
there's nothing anatomically unsual.
At Sat, 27 Jul 2002, Katt wrote:
>
>I am a 26 y.o. who has never had intercourse. I have had few sexual
>experiences in my life, but the ones I have had, have been intense. I
>recently started seeing a 39 y.o. male but our encounters have only
>been of a sexual nature. Although we have not yet had intercourse, he
>does fondle me and inserts his fingers into my vagina. Everytime he
>does this, I want to cry in pain. He is unaware of the fact that I am
>still a virgin so he seems perplexed, especially because I am usually
>very lubricated. However, this is not the first time I have engaged in
>this sort of activity, and he takes quite a bit of time to get me
>aroused. Still, as soon as he inserts one finger, into me, I feel
>incredible pain. Is this normal for someone my age? One factor to
>consider...I am small, about 5'1" and 85-90 lbs and he is quite large.
>Could my size have anything to do with this or is it my lack of sexual
>experience or is this even normal? He gets worried and says that sex
>should be pleasurable, not painful. I could use some advice.
--
John Essien, M.D. SOCOG
Camaguey, Cuba; Basseterre, St. Kitts
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