Re: can't have sex
From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Sat, 6 Jul 2002 04:16:06 -0500 (CDT)
Sue, I would suggest you seek help from a psycotherapist to help you get
over your past. Also remember, having sex if you are scared of getting
hurt can be rather traumatic.
At Sat, 6 Jul 2002, Sue wrote:
>
>Hi Everyone,
>
>I'm really hoping someone can help me because I'm so confused. I tried
>having sex with my boyfriend tonight, and it didn't really work. He's
>really big around, and I feel like I'm going to tear something. It
>REALLY hurts, and I made him stop. We tried a few times, but he
>couldn't get inside. He says it even hurt for him because I'm so tight.
>I am basically a virgin, so I know that first times are tough, but I
>didn't expect this. I've been using tampons for years and don't think I
>still have a hymen (how do I know?). I've been going to the gyno since
>I was 18 and no problems there during examinations or anything. Never
>had a problem before at all with any sort of sexual act. I don't know
>if it's me or his size and what to do about it.
>
>A point of note, I was molested as a child. We've talked about this and
>what it means in terms of my trust and sex and all. I can do everything
>else without pain or problem. I really don't think it's psychological
>esp since penetration wasn't an issue in my childhood (that I remember).
>
>I also really don't like sex all that much. Is that normal? I just
>don't find it enjoyable. And, I kinda am concerned that it's going to
>be an issue in the future.
>
>HELP!
>
>Any advice is welcomed!!!!
>
>THANKS!
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