YOUNG-WOMEN Messages for April, 2002: Re: Exam Fears

Re: Exam Fears

From: Kayla (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun, 7 Apr 2002 20:29:22 -0500 (CDT)

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At Fri, 5 Apr 2002, Anon. wrote: >
>This may be an odd issue to post to a gyn board, but this is the only
>place I know of where women gather and talk about these kinds of things,
>among themselves and with medical professionals. I would be way too shy
>to ever bring this up with women I know in my real life.
>
>What I am reluctant to bring up with said women is the fact that I am
>terrifed of being examined in any sort of intimate way. (GYN exams,
>rectal exams--any exam where clothing comes off creates in me immediate
>hypertension.
>Sometimes I even feel less innocent or less of a virgin, because I have
>had pelvic exams. I am not confused - I know that the pelvic exam
>itself does not "take my virginity" or anything like that. I guess it's
>just the idea that someone else has seen and touched parts of my body
>that are so very, very private. It feels like a violation.
>

You are most definatly not the only one with these feelings. In highschool I was raped and it made it extremely hard to even be near any males. That was 5 or 6 years ago, and this fall I finially got my first exam. That was only because I was very sick. But, I was most certainly nervous. My knees shook as they were in the position. I was terrified. But if I didn't get that exam, I would have died. The tumors that were in my uterus could have exploded and killed me. Or they could've grown bigger and they would have eventually turned malignant. If you are in the Chicago land area, I would glady reccomend my gyn/ob. She is in the suburbs of that area. Ask around, ask trusted girlfriends, they will tell you of a good doctor. Don't be ashamed, all girls have those "parts" and yes, alot feel that it is a "violation". I know I did and still to a point I do. I scared to death to ever have sex with another man. I am ebaressed of my scares, "that area" and my breasts. We need to learn to start accepting ourselves as God's children and that we are special!

--
Kayla
**Just someone who cares, preparing for the medical field**

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