Re: Wedding Night Apprehension
From: Anna (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 13 Mar 2001 12:41:07 -0600 (CST)
Hi,
just remember that it's not written anywhere that you HAVE TO
"consummate the marriage" on your wedding night. Maybe it will make
things easier for the two of you if you agree to do "everything but"
that night and leave intercourse for another time (when you don't have
to worry about the catering and is the accomodation for your families
okay and Uncle Bob misbehaving again...). If you're going away for your
honeymoon, why not leave it till then, when there's no pressure?
There are so many things you can do with your hands and mouths and minds
to affirm your love - don't let fear ruin your wedding night!
--
Anna
>>At Mon, 12 Mar 2001, Anonymous wrote:
>>>
>>>I am engaged to be married this summer. Both my fiance' and I are
>>>virgins. I know that nothing has ever penetrated her, neither finger,
>>>tampon, or other. She has voiced concern to me that she is afraid that
>>>she will be too small for me on the night after our wedding. I have
>>>never 'measured' myself, but don't feel that I am abnormally large. She
>>>has small ear canals (that required tubes) and a small mouth (that
>>>required a palate spreared), and said of her last Gyn visit that the
>>>specula "hurt," and that she was told, or read, that it was not supposed
>>>to. How possible is it that she will be too small for me, or I too
>>>large for her? Is this something that a Gyn should have informed her of
>>>at her last visit? Is a small vagina something that the doctor would
>>>notice and remark: "You should know that you have a small vagina, you
>>>will need to do ___ whenever you are ready to have sex." If she went to
>>>the Gyn and asked, could she tell, quantitatively, if she had a small
>>>vagina or not? What can be done if this is the case, and what can I do
>>>if we get to that night and it seems too small. Please advise, I
>>>wouldn't know what to do if I hurt her.
>>>
>>>Thank You,
>>>VirginGroom
>
>It probably will hurt. Just take things slow and use plenty of
>lubrication (KY jelly, Astroglide). I think it's great that you waited
>too. Best of luck with your future lives together!!
>
>--
>Jennifer
>
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