YOUNG-WOMEN Messages for January, 2001: Re: sexual intercourse

Re: sexual intercourse

From: anon.. (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 11 Jan 2001 17:56:32 -0600 (CST)

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Dear Virginia,

ANy sexual contact between inexperienced partners can cause some degree of nervousness and anxiety. Sexual pleasure and sexual needs has to be considered for both partners and by both partners. It appears that your husband was not a Virgin before he met you and/or he is rather impatient about when wanting to make love? Or he could be also inexperienced and thus lack experience on knowing how to arouse you? He can't expect you lie back and be ready' (excuse the phrase) immediately when sex is intiated. It can take some time for a woman (or man) to become fully aroused. As an act of intimacy you may both want to consider spending some time exploring each others bodies and establishing where each other's erogenious zones are situated to enhance sexual stimulation and euphoria and working on foreplay for heightened arousal.

Sex should not feel like a chore, it should be pleasurable for both partners. Your husband should be considerate and patient with your needs and not expect you to be 'ready and waiting' at a snap of a finger!

Sometimes the vagina muscles can go into involuntary spasm which prevents penetration of the man's penis. It can also be excruiatingly painful. Also the hymen which in Virgins, covers the opening of the vagina, can be very tough and so before it breaks, can again cause some degree of discomfort and have the feeling of 'hitting a brick wall'.

Your partner and yourself both need to be patient and what you don't need is to feel pressurised in having to perform 100% well when your sexual experiences is only developing. It can require patience and you need respect and consideration from your husband.

I know from experience that when i had sex for the first time, it was NOT enjoyable and it took at least three attempts for my hymen to break and for me to feel comfrotable with such sexual contact.

The man's penis does not enter the uterus, it merely enters the vagina although the tip of the penis can hit or touch the cervix wall.

You may want to see a sexual therapist or counsellor if there are some sexual issues although my guess is to allow some more ample time to develop sexually and get to know each others's bodies.

I know it can seem frustrating for you and your husband for sex between you not to immediately be a bed of roses, but it can take time, believe me???!!! And i know that you may somewhat feel conscious about having to please your husband??!!..but its a two fold thing, the ball lies in his court as well!!!!

I hope this helps alittle!!!

Kind regards At Thu, 11 Jan 2001, virginia wrote: >
>I am hoping this question will help other women who might have this
>problem!!
>
> I recently got married, I was a virgin befor marriage.
> when my husband and I get together to make love,
> I have pain after the initial pentetration. my husband can
> go so far and it is like he is hitting a wall.
>
> I was told that this is my vagina muscles closing not
> allowing him into the uterus, a natural defense so to
> speak..
>
>I was also told to have my husband take longer and arouse me more befor
>we do the act.
>
> my husband does not like to wait unfortunatly and expects
> me to be ready right away,
>
>Also I need to mention that I have a uterus that bends
>backwards.
>
>I don't know why I was so blessed. Anyway is thier any advice you can
>give me??
>
> this is causing great frustration, not to mention havoc
> on my marriage!!!

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