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Re: I am so confused...~Dr. von Almen
From: Claudia Twisdale RN (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon, 11 Sep 2000 19:29:24 -0500 (CDT)
I am glad to see you decided to wait. Sex can be a wonderful
thing...when it is right, and when you are ready. You are very wise and
mature to make such a hard choice
At Mon, 11 Sep 2000, carrie wrote:
>
>I just wanted to thank all of you who responded to my concern,
>especailly Dr. von Almen. You ahve helped me make my decision, which
>is to keep my virginity...It is something sacred to me, and I do not
>want to ruin my friendship with this person...Thank you again so very
>much. I am glad that I was able to be heard, and not critizised. Thanks
>again.
>
>--
>Carrie.
>
>At Sun, 10 Sep 2000, Robin wrote:
>>
>>At Sun, 10 Sep 2000, William F. von Almen, II, MD, FACOG wrote:
>>>
>>>At Sun, 10 Sep 2000, Robin wrote:
>>>>
>>>>At Sun, 10 Sep 2000, William F. von Almen, II, MD, FACOG wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>At Sat, 9 Sep 2000, carrie wrote:
>>>>>>
>>>>>>To whom it may concern,
>>>>>>
>>>>>>i have been friends with this particular guy for 13 years, and last year
>>>>>>we tried dating...it didn't work, but we are still very close friends
>>>>>>with a lot of chemistry between us. I am a college freshman, and this
>>>>>>person is coming to visit me for the weekend in 2 weeks. The issue of
>>>>>>sex has come up before, but now I have started to seriously think about
>>>>>>it, but I am terribly nervous. I have heard so many stories about
>>>>>>pregnancy, and STD's, and I think that I have worked myself up so much,
>>>>>>I am terrified to left a man touch me, let alone give my virginity to
>>>>>>him. I am very confused. I have never been to a gynecologist, and I am
>>>>>>19 years old. I do not know if I should go on birth control just to be
>>>>>>on the safe side, and even if I do, I am terrified that my parents will
>>>>>>find out. Could you please, please, please give me some advice?? This
>>>>>>is all i have been thinking about for two weeks...
>>>>>>
>>>>>>Thank you so much.
>>>>>Carrie
>>>>>
>>>>>Well, let me approach this from 2 fronts.
>>>>>1. Even if you got in to see a gyn and started the pill, it will not be
>>>>>totally effective for 1 cycle, and of course you will have to use
>>>>>condoms as back up, and those are better for protection from STD's as
>>>>>the pill offers no std protection. Also, remember, you start the pill
>>>>>the sunday after a period starts, so the timing may be off anyway.
>>>>>
>>>>>2. All that said, here is what I really want to tell you!
>>>>>Why have sex with this guy at all? If you are as close a friends as you
>>>>>say you are, I can guarantee you this act will ruin that friendship. If
>>>>>this guy is a great a person as you say he is, he will really understand
>>>>>(and may be just as afraid as you are). I know this is the over 40 dad
>>>>>in me talking, but it takes 2 to tango, and you do not have to DO THIS.
>>>>>
>>>>>Lots of luck, I know you will make the right decision.
>>>>
>>>>Even though this came from an "over 40 Dad" and a Dr. too, you said
>>>>this better than anyone could ever say it. I read the original poster's
>>>>post, and was trying to think of what to say. Instead, I read your
>>>>post, and thought, "Wow, that is terrific advice!"
>>>>
>>>>Your post is something everyone can learn from........
>>>>
>>>>Thanks!
>>>>Robin
>>>>
>>>>>--
>>>>>William F. von Almen, II, MD, FACOG
>>>>>Editorial Advisor-Pregnancy and Birth
>>>>>Private Practice
>>>>>New Orleans, La.
>>>>>
>>>>>*Please understand I can not respond to private emails.
>>>>>
>>>>>*These comments are for educational purposes only. They are
>>>>>not meant to take the place of an examination by a qualified
>>>>>health care provider. They are not intended to be the start
>>>>>of a physician-patient relationship.
>>>>>
>>>>--
>>>>~Robin~
>>>>
>>>>I'm not a Dr. or any type of Medical Professional. The information I share is based on what I have experienced personally or what I have learned.
>>>>
>>>Robin
>>>
>>>Thanks so much for the kind note. I really needed it, especially after
>>>the huge fight my wife and I had with our 17 y/o daughter about prepping
>>>for the SAT. It can be true what they say about wisdom being wasted on
>>>the youth. Have a great day!
>>>
>>>--
>>>William F. von Almen, II, MD, FACOG
>>>Editorial Advisor-Pregnancy and Birth
>>>Private Practice
>>>New Orleans, La.
>>>
>>>*Please understand I can not respond to private emails.
>>>
>>>*These comments are for educational purposes only. They are
>>>not meant to take the place of an examination by a qualified
>>>health care provider. They are not intended to be the start
>>>of a physician-patient relationship.
>>>
>>Dr. von Almen,
>>
>>I am sorry you and your wife had a fight with your daughter. I know I
>>was trying at times for my Mom (dad died when I was 12). I am sure when
>>she calms down, she will see that both of her parents are correct in
>>what they were saying. What is also true is that we all eventually do
>>see that what our parents told us and taught us was the right thing,
>>even though we were dead set on thinking otherwise!
>>
>>I am glad my note helped ;o)......
>>
>>--
>>Robin
>>
>>--
>>~Robin~
>>
>>I'm not a Dr. or any type of Medical Professional. The information I share is based on what I have experienced personally or what I have learned.
>>
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