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Re: I am so confused...~Dr. von AlmenFrom: Robin (anonymous@obgyn.net)Sun, 10 Sep 2000 14:11:50 -0500 (CDT)
At Sun, 10 Sep 2000, William F. von Almen, II, MD, FACOG wrote: > >At Sun, 10 Sep 2000, Robin wrote: >> >>At Sun, 10 Sep 2000, William F. von Almen, II, MD, FACOG wrote: >>> >>>At Sat, 9 Sep 2000, carrie wrote: >>>> >>>>To whom it may concern, >>>> >>>>i have been friends with this particular guy for 13 years, and last year >>>>we tried dating...it didn't work, but we are still very close friends >>>>with a lot of chemistry between us. I am a college freshman, and this >>>>person is coming to visit me for the weekend in 2 weeks. The issue of >>>>sex has come up before, but now I have started to seriously think about >>>>it, but I am terribly nervous. I have heard so many stories about >>>>pregnancy, and STD's, and I think that I have worked myself up so much, >>>>I am terrified to left a man touch me, let alone give my virginity to >>>>him. I am very confused. I have never been to a gynecologist, and I am >>>>19 years old. I do not know if I should go on birth control just to be >>>>on the safe side, and even if I do, I am terrified that my parents will >>>>find out. Could you please, please, please give me some advice?? This >>>>is all i have been thinking about for two weeks... >>>> >>>>Thank you so much. >>>Carrie >>> >>>Well, let me approach this from 2 fronts. >>>1. Even if you got in to see a gyn and started the pill, it will not be >>>totally effective for 1 cycle, and of course you will have to use >>>condoms as back up, and those are better for protection from STD's as >>>the pill offers no std protection. Also, remember, you start the pill >>>the sunday after a period starts, so the timing may be off anyway. >>> >>>2. All that said, here is what I really want to tell you! >>>Why have sex with this guy at all? If you are as close a friends as you >>>say you are, I can guarantee you this act will ruin that friendship. If >>>this guy is a great a person as you say he is, he will really understand >>>(and may be just as afraid as you are). I know this is the over 40 dad >>>in me talking, but it takes 2 to tango, and you do not have to DO THIS. >>> >>>Lots of luck, I know you will make the right decision. >> >>Even though this came from an "over 40 Dad" and a Dr. too, you said >>this better than anyone could ever say it. I read the original poster's >>post, and was trying to think of what to say. Instead, I read your >>post, and thought, "Wow, that is terrific advice!" >> >>Your post is something everyone can learn from........ >> >>Thanks! >>Robin >> >>>-- >>>William F. von Almen, II, MD, FACOG >>>Editorial Advisor-Pregnancy and Birth >>>Private Practice >>>New Orleans, La. >>> >>>*Please understand I can not respond to private emails. >>> >>>*These comments are for educational purposes only. They are >>>not meant to take the place of an examination by a qualified >>>health care provider. They are not intended to be the start >>>of a physician-patient relationship. >>> >>-- >>~Robin~ >> >>I'm not a Dr. or any type of Medical Professional. The information I share is based on what I have experienced personally or what I have learned. >> >Robin > >Thanks so much for the kind note. I really needed it, especially after >the huge fight my wife and I had with our 17 y/o daughter about prepping >for the SAT. It can be true what they say about wisdom being wasted on >the youth. Have a great day! > >-- >William F. von Almen, II, MD, FACOG >Editorial Advisor-Pregnancy and Birth >Private Practice >New Orleans, La. > >*Please understand I can not respond to private emails. > >*These comments are for educational purposes only. They are >not meant to take the place of an examination by a qualified >health care provider. They are not intended to be the start >of a physician-patient relationship. > Dr. von Almen, I am sorry you and your wife had a fight with your daughter. I know I was trying at times for my Mom (dad died when I was 12). I am sure when she calms down, she will see that both of her parents are correct in what they were saying. What is also true is that we all eventually do see that what our parents told us and taught us was the right thing, even though we were dead set on thinking otherwise! I am glad my note helped ;o)......
-- Robin
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