Re: Gynecology and Sex--apology to Dr.
From: Harvey S. Marchbein, M.D. (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 18 Aug 2000 09:16:52 -0500 (CDT)
Not to worry. Hope we were able to help.
HSM
At Fri, 18 Aug 2000, mary wrote:
>
>i am very sorry about the misunderstanding doctor
>please accept my apology
>
>At Thu, 17 Aug 2000, R. Daniel Braun, MD wrote:
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>>At Thu, 17 Aug 2000, mary wrote:
>>>
>>>Hi ,
>>>I have read this article, and Dr. Hill mention age 18 is a good time to
>>>start having sex if u are sexually active.
>>>Is that mean age 18 is a legal age to ahve sex?? any one under 18 will
>>>become illegal ??
>>
>>That is not what he said. I suggest that you re read his comments.
>>
>>RDB
>>
>>>At Thu, 13 Jul 2000, D. Ashley Hill, MD wrote:
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>>>>At Thu, 13 Jul 2000, Anonomyous wrote:
>>>>>
>>>>>My girlfriend and I have recently become sexually active. We have
>>>>>stopped having sex, due to our age, but are worried about her first
>>>>>gynecology procedure. Since we are teens, we don't want her mom to
>>>>>know, and we are afraid that the gynecologist will notice she has had
>>>>>sex and will tell her mom.
>>>>
>>>>I can't speak for all gynecologists, but it would be very unusual for a
>>>>gyn to tell a patient's mom that she was sexually active (outside of the
>>>>legal requirements to do so when minor children are victims of sexual
>>>>abuse by someone older). I usually meet with my first-time younger
>>>>patients with their mom, then I "kick out" the mom so I can talk with
>>>>the patient. I explain that even though I think most parents are the
>>>>best resource for young adults to speak with, I understand that it's
>>>>hard to talk to your mom or dad about sex. However, it should not be
>>>>hard to talk to a doctor about this, because we deal with these issues
>>>>all day long. Her doctor will likely notice the hymen is not intact,
>>>>but to be honest, many things, like riding a bike, can "break" the
>>>>hymen. It's entirely possible the doctor will not even notice that your
>>>>girlfriend has had intercourse. There is no way to determine if someone
>>>>masturbates by doing an examination.
>>>>
>>>>I encourage your girlfriend to see a gynecologist fairly soon. Young
>>>>women should see a gyn when they begin sexual activity. If they have
>>>>never been sexually active, then age 18 is a good time to start.
>>>>
>>>>You did not ask about "safe sex," but please keep in mind that there is
>>>>a huge amount of misinformation going around about sex, pregnancy,
>>>>sexual infections, and AIDS. The bottom line is that like lots of
>>>>things in life, choosing to become sexually active brings with it a lot
>>>>of responsiblity, including the potential for pregnancy and sexually
>>>>transmitted diseases. You are on the right track speaking with a doctor
>>>>about these issues. Best wishes,
>>>>
>>>>--
>>>>David Ashley Hill, MD
>>>>Associate Director
>>>>Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology
>>>>Florida Hospital Family Practice Residency
>>>>http://home.mpinet.net/dahmd
>>>>
>>>>My apologies, but due to time constraints I am unable to answer private e-mails.
>>>>
>>--
>>R.Daniel Braun, MD FACOG FOG
>>
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Harvey S. Marchbein, M.D. FACOG, FACS
Great Neck, New York
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