Re: Gynecology and Sex
From: Harvey S. Marchbein, M.D. (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 17 Aug 2000 19:29:00 -0500 (CDT)
He wrote 18 years old for pelvic exam, not necessarily sex.
Here is his response:
"I encourage your girlfriend to see a gynecologist fairly soon. Young
women should see a gyn when they begin sexual activity. If they have
never been sexually active, then age 18 is a good time to start."
Dr. M
At Thu, 17 Aug 2000, mary wrote:
>
>Hi ,
>I have read this article, and Dr. Hill mention age 18 is a good time to
>start having sex if u are sexually active.
>Is that mean age 18 is a legal age to ahve sex?? any one under 18 will
>become illegal ??
>
>At Thu, 13 Jul 2000, D. Ashley Hill, MD wrote:
>>
>>At Thu, 13 Jul 2000, Anonomyous wrote:
>>>
>>>My girlfriend and I have recently become sexually active. We have
>>>stopped having sex, due to our age, but are worried about her first
>>>gynecology procedure. Since we are teens, we don't want her mom to
>>>know, and we are afraid that the gynecologist will notice she has had
>>>sex and will tell her mom.
>>
>>I can't speak for all gynecologists, but it would be very unusual for a
>>gyn to tell a patient's mom that she was sexually active (outside of the
>>legal requirements to do so when minor children are victims of sexual
>>abuse by someone older). I usually meet with my first-time younger
>>patients with their mom, then I "kick out" the mom so I can talk with
>>the patient. I explain that even though I think most parents are the
>>best resource for young adults to speak with, I understand that it's
>>hard to talk to your mom or dad about sex. However, it should not be
>>hard to talk to a doctor about this, because we deal with these issues
>>all day long. Her doctor will likely notice the hymen is not intact,
>>but to be honest, many things, like riding a bike, can "break" the
>>hymen. It's entirely possible the doctor will not even notice that your
>>girlfriend has had intercourse. There is no way to determine if someone
>>masturbates by doing an examination.
>>
>>I encourage your girlfriend to see a gynecologist fairly soon. Young
>>women should see a gyn when they begin sexual activity. If they have
>>never been sexually active, then age 18 is a good time to start.
>>
>>You did not ask about "safe sex," but please keep in mind that there is
>>a huge amount of misinformation going around about sex, pregnancy,
>>sexual infections, and AIDS. The bottom line is that like lots of
>>things in life, choosing to become sexually active brings with it a lot
>>of responsiblity, including the potential for pregnancy and sexually
>>transmitted diseases. You are on the right track speaking with a doctor
>>about these issues. Best wishes,
>>
>>--
>>David Ashley Hill, MD
>>Associate Director
>>Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology
>>Florida Hospital Family Practice Residency
>>http://home.mpinet.net/dahmd
>>
>>My apologies, but due to time constraints I am unable to answer private e-mails.
>>
--
Harvey S. Marchbein, M.D. FACOG, FACS
Great Neck, New York
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