Re: Gynecology and Sex
From: Robin (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 17 Aug 2000 02:41:17 -0500 (CDT)
Hello Anonymous,
I just reread what Dr. Hill wrote, and from what I can understand, and
from what I know, he did not say that 18 is a good time to start having
sex, or mention legal issues. What I was able to take from his message
is that one needs to go to the GYN at 18 or by the time they BECOME
sexually active, whichever occurs first.
The legal issue comes in to play when a minor child (depending on what
each state considers the age of a child to be considered a Minor) has
sex with someone that is of age. That is called Statutory Rape. There
are other legal issues, such as rape, which is illegal, which we all
know.
The only good time to start having sex is when you are ready, and not
until that time. Along with that, if pregnancy is not desired, a visit
to the GYN for a full check up and counseling on contraceptives is
necessary. Also, use Condoms every time to avoid any diseases, such as
AIDS, and other STD's.
Good luck.
--
Robin
At Thu, 17 Aug 2000, mary wrote:
>
>Hi ,
>I have read this article, and Dr. Hill mention age 18 is a good time to
>start having sex if u are sexually active.
>Is that mean age 18 is a legal age to ahve sex?? any one under 18 will
>become illegal ??
>
>At Thu, 13 Jul 2000, D. Ashley Hill, MD wrote:
>>
>>At Thu, 13 Jul 2000, Anonomyous wrote:
>>>
>>>My girlfriend and I have recently become sexually active. We have
>>>stopped having sex, due to our age, but are worried about her first
>>>gynecology procedure. Since we are teens, we don't want her mom to
>>>know, and we are afraid that the gynecologist will notice she has had
>>>sex and will tell her mom.
>>
>>I can't speak for all gynecologists, but it would be very unusual for a
>>gyn to tell a patient's mom that she was sexually active (outside of the
>>legal requirements to do so when minor children are victims of sexual
>>abuse by someone older). I usually meet with my first-time younger
>>patients with their mom, then I "kick out" the mom so I can talk with
>>the patient. I explain that even though I think most parents are the
>>best resource for young adults to speak with, I understand that it's
>>hard to talk to your mom or dad about sex. However, it should not be
>>hard to talk to a doctor about this, because we deal with these issues
>>all day long. Her doctor will likely notice the hymen is not intact,
>>but to be honest, many things, like riding a bike, can "break" the
>>hymen. It's entirely possible the doctor will not even notice that your
>>girlfriend has had intercourse. There is no way to determine if someone
>>masturbates by doing an examination.
>>
>>I encourage your girlfriend to see a gynecologist fairly soon. Young
>>women should see a gyn when they begin sexual activity. If they have
>>never been sexually active, then age 18 is a good time to start.
>>
>>You did not ask about "safe sex," but please keep in mind that there is
>>a huge amount of misinformation going around about sex, pregnancy,
>>sexual infections, and AIDS. The bottom line is that like lots of
>>things in life, choosing to become sexually active brings with it a lot
>>of responsiblity, including the potential for pregnancy and sexually
>>transmitted diseases. You are on the right track speaking with a doctor
>>about these issues. Best wishes,
>>
>>--
>>David Ashley Hill, MD
>>Associate Director
>>Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology
>>Florida Hospital Family Practice Residency
>>http://home.mpinet.net/dahmd
>>
>>My apologies, but due to time constraints I am unable to answer private e-mails.
>>
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