Re: Asian obs. & Sexism?
From: Barbara (anonymous@obgyn.net,)
Tue, 6 Jul 1999 15:32:12 -0500 (CDT)
Dear Verna and others that thnk they would like to reply,
Please let us Not pick a race, color or creed to discuss topics on the
OBGYN.net Women's Health Forum. This is a World-Wide site and not just
for Americans!
If one does not care for their physician or does not care for their
bedside manner or manner of speach for that matter; I suggest you get
another physician.
Please ladies let's Drop This Topic. It is not appropriate for
OBGYN.net.
One of my favorite OBGYN.net physicians is from Asia.
Barbara
At Tue, 6 Jul 1999, Venera wrote:
>
>It has been my experience that they can be very sexist. I would like to
>know, possibly from an asian doctor, if this is a cultural thing.
>
>I would also like to know what doctors would consider appropriate birth
>control recommendations for a 36 year old woman who would be having her
>5th child (& 5th c-section)?
>
>Upon a consultation I was told that I "should have a tubal ligation
>while at the hospital for the c-section". I suggested that my husband
>was considering a vasectomy--and there was no response. 2 minutes later
>he repeated his advice that I should have a tubal. Said he would mark
>down on the chart that I am "considering a tubal ligation". (This same
>advice was provided to me by another asian ob. as well)
>
>Also, I had a very well respected (for his sugical abilities, certainly
>not his bedside manner!) ob console my husband after ultrasound results
>indicated we were having a girl (we had 2 girls and a boy already). He
>said "Sorry, these things can't be guaranteed, but there is always a
>miracle", while shaking my husbands hand in consolation! We never even
>indicated that we wanted a boy in particular. After that delivery he
>said, "well, that's it! No more children! 4 is enough! You don't need
>anymore than that! Of course he backed all this up with a little fear
>inducement by tossing around words like "uterine rupture" and "death".
>
>Just wondering what you think.
--
Barbara A. Nesbitt
Editor, OBGYN.net
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