WOMENS-HEALTH Messages for June, 1998: Re: SEVERE sexual phobia--PLEASE READ!!!

Re: SEVERE sexual phobia--PLEASE READ!!!

From: J.Glenn Bradley MD (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun, 28 Jun 1998 12:30:54 -0500 (CDT)

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At Sun, 28 Jun 1998, Cindy wrote: >
>This may seems like a wierd post to some of you, but let me assure you
>that it is true and sincere as they come. Perhaps this may seem like
>more of a psychological issue, but where issues of sexuality are
>discussed so freely on this board, I feel that this may be a good
>springing board for advice.
>
>I'm a 21 year old college student, in a 2-year-plus relationship with a
>wonderful 23-year-old man. Up until recently, we have enjoyed a great
>love life, until a few months ago a preg. scare sent me to the dr. for
>a (thankfully) negative blood test and a perscription for the pill. You
>would think that this would make me more reassured, but in fact it has
>made me more anxious about sex--I constantly worry, "What if I'm that
>one percent it fails? Is it strong enough (I'm on the 20 mcg dose, doc
>refused to put me on a stronger dose because of my age)?, and every
>month I stress over wiether my period is something to worry about or not
>(I got on the internet recently and saw lots of stories about women who
>didn't know that they were pregnant because they still had periods, and
>so every month I get extrememly nervous, analyzing every drop of blood
>to make sure that it is the same amount--which on the pill, rarely is.)
>I saw a post on here a few days ago about that subject, and it reminded
>me of this. I've been almost fanatic about taking my pills, not missed
>any, but yet I can't help but to fret day in and day out. I've even got
>so worried before that I developed psychosamatic (sp.) symptoms--one
>month, got another test because of nausea and freqent urination, but it
>was neg....as soon as I stopped worrying for awhile, the symptoms went
>away, and I had my period a couple of weeks later,only to start worrying
>again.
>
>We've used condoms with the pill, but even then I can't stop worrying.
>As you might expect, this is driving my now fiancee nuts, as I
>obsess.We've not had sex for some time now. I have even tried to
>arrange to get my tubes tied, but no doctor I have spoken to will do
>this procedure on someone my age, even though I am SURE that I don't
>want kids. Everytime I see a mother and a young child since that scare,
>I want to run to a corner and cry, for some reason absolutely terrified
>at the sight. I can't even stand a man noticing me on the street--I
>just don't want to be sexual at all. Since I will be married soon, I
>can't just be celebate as a nun!! I care tremendously for my fiancee,
>and don't want to hurt him--or me.
>
>Again, this may be more of a psychological problem, but many of you on
>this board seem to be caring and knowedgable, and so I'd like to ask for
>any advice or feed back that you can provide. Thanks!

Cindy: have you thought about depoprovera as a means of birth control? This drug is injected once every 3 months, 2/3rds of the women never bleed while they are on it, and the failure rate approaches zero. I have never seen a failure in 32 years of practice.

Dr.B

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