WOMENS-HEALTH Messages for June, 1998: Re: pre-wedding/honeymoon tips, advice

Re: pre-wedding/honeymoon tips, advice

From: A. (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun, 21 Jun 1998 23:44:25 -0500 (CDT)

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At Sat, 20 Jun 1998, Kathy wrote: >
>I am getting married next weekend. I've read a lot about what to expect
>on my wedding night, but just thought I'd throw this out to see if any
>of you have some good advice to pass along to help me to make my wedding
>night a very special and enjoyable occasion.

You haven't told us whether you're still a virgin, but since you're asking what to expect, I'm going to assume as much.

The first thing I suggest is this: if you have to travel far either right after the wedding, or the day after the wedding, if your wedding has been a big to-do and you've been in charge of it, and/or if you're tired and wired...you might consider not *having* a "wedding night" - you might consider just snuggling up, and going to sleep, and resting. There is always the next morning. :)

The second thing I suggest is, go very slowly. Sex can be uncomfortable, even painful at first (it hurt me quite a lot.) Or it might not be uncomfortable at all (my best friend told me it never hurt her in the least) - you won't know until you try.

And, sex is a learned thing. If he is also a virgin, go especially slow. While the desire for sex is instinctive, the actual motions take some learning and practice.

If you feel clumsy, laugh at yourselves. It's okay.

If it doesn't work the first time, snuggle and kiss each other. It's okay.

If you don't have an orgasm, it's okay. If *he* doesn't, it's okay. It's not a performance, and no judges will be standing at the end of the bed, ready to hold up signs: 9.0, 7.5, 8.0.

If you have to use a lubricant, by all means do - though I would suggest that if you are too nervous to become aroused and lubricated on your own, you need to slow down - you've got the rest of your lives together to get it right, after all, and on your honeymoon, you've got nothing *but* time.

One of the most important purposes of sex in marriage, after all, is to bond the two of you emotionally - and it will.

Above all, enjoy being together, and it *will* be special and memorable.

Blessings on your wedding,

--angela

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