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Re: lost babyFrom: Mary (anonymous@obgyn.net)Mon, 28 Jul 1997 10:38:19 -0500 (CDT)
At Sat, 26 Jul 1997, Lowanna wrote: > >My Daughter's second pregnancy went so well until the day after her 38th >week checkup. > >She came over and said her tummy seemed smaller, possibly the baby dropped, >but she hadn't felt him move since 2 a.m. > >We called the Dr., went to the hospital to be checked, the nurse couldn't >find a heartbeat, called the Dr. in hospital for a u/s and determined that >the baby was dead. > >Her Dr. felt so bad. The cause, possibly a "long umbilical cord". > >When the baby was delivered, he was black from lack of oxygen, but after we >held him for a while he was more pink. > >I ask the Dr. if he could give the baby some oxygen and he looked like he >didn't have the heart to tell me no, and just shook his head. > >Even the pictures of the baby showed the difference of color when we got >them developed. > >I am sure people never really get over a loss of a perfect baby, but I do >have a few of questions. > >1. How can stillbirths due to umbilical length and other similar situations >be prevented? > >2. How long can babies be without oxygen and still be safely revived? > >3. Are there any case histories on this? > >4. Is there any way the Mother can monitor the unborn baby for distress or >problems? > >5. My Daughters first baby was also in distress when he was delivered due >to the umbilical cord wrapped around his neck. (He also was black from lack >of oxygen, but was revived) > >6. Would an u/s have been helpful in recognizing a "cord problem"? > >7. Is it possible that the babys heartbeat could be so weak that it >doesn't show on the u/s? > >8. The Dr. on call in the hospital said that on the u/s there didn't seem >to be a lot of amniotic fluid, would this make it difficult to hear or see >the fetal heartbeat? > >9. What would cause there to be a lessening of amniotic fluid? > >I hope you can answer my questions, we are having a difficult time. > >Thank you, >Lowanna
-- Dear Lowanna, I was browsing this morning and saw your message. Please accept my sympathy. I am a RN who used to work in a hospital nursery connected to a higher risk maternity unit. It appears at times that the health professionals take these situations somewhat "in stride". Nothing could be farther from the truth. The nursery nurses and the pediatrician as well as the ob staff and physician were at the delivery and never ceased to be caught up in the excitement and joy, or sadness and devastation as in this case. Every pregnancy and birth is a wonder to behold. Sometimes when the delivery ends in sadness, the caregivers are also stricken and cannot find the right words or actions to administer comfort. Indeed, sometimes words are useless. I want you to know that I have personally felt extreme grief when an infant dies or is stillborn, and I know that everyone else involved with your grandchild's and his mother's case felt deeply sad at the outcome with your family. One reason is that in general, this is a happy field and nothing can diminish the joy of laying a newborn in his parents arms following birth; telling them he/she has no problems. On the flip side, nothing compares to the delivery of sad news to expectant families. I guess I just want you to know, that those in the maternal/child field are there because they love it not because it is just a job. Please know that they will share your sorrow now and your joy in the future should another pregnancy occur. Best of luck. Maryg
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