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Re: Painful intercourse
From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed, 18 Jun 1997 17:16:58 -0500 (CDT)
Thanks for your encouragement. I'll follow up on your suggestion about
going directly to the hospitals for referral. Maybe that will prove to
be the answer. As far as who wants the divorce, it is just that this
has become so painful for both of us (mentally, that is) that we are
tempted to run away from it just for relief. How can I answer my
husband when he says that he doesn't want to be 65 and never had a real
wife? For that matter, I don't want to be 65 without ever feeling like a
woman. Thanks for all your replies. They do help.
At Tue, 17 Jun 1997, barbara wrote:
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>>At Tue, 17 Jun 1997, Laurie wrote:
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>>>At Mon, 16 Jun 1997, anonymous wrote:
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>>>Michele,
> First I would suggest that you go to a competent
>>>physician that you feel comfortable with, and get a thorough GYN exam.
>
>Dear Michele,
>
>The above advice from Dr. Laurie is the bottom line in receiving
>treatment for your painful intercourse. The two key words are
>"competent" And "comfortable with".
>
>>>Then I think you should have a detailed discussion with your provider,
>>>to see if he/she feels adequately trained to help you with this problem.
>
>This is the hard part, as most of us do-not feel we have the right to
>take up too much of our doctors time. While we may feel this way we are
>also doing ourselves and our doctor a diservice because then we miss out
>on the opportunity to Really get to the bottom of our problem. I find
>that if you tell the doctor that you have a Lot to talk about and could
>he/she set aside enough time so you both feel comfortable and neither
>one of you is rushed. When I worked in a busy internal medicine
>practice we called this a conference visit and it ment, Time To Talk.
>
>>>If not, request a referral to a pelvic pain specialist or a specialist
>>>in sexual dysfunction.
>
>Michele, do you live in or near a large metropolitian area? A good place
>to start is a teaching hospital where doctors like Laurie Lovely are
>doing advanced training in special areas and you would be treated by
>several competent doctors and the chief of the department as well.
>Second, try a large hospital, call them and see if they have a referral
>for a pelvic pain specialist as Laurie suggested.
>
>Please follow through on this as I feel there is much that can be done
>to help you. We sometimes feel uncomfortable talking about sexual
>problems but remember Obgyn's are trained in this area of medicine and
>to them these are Real problems that they want to correct.
>
>My heart goes out to you as you search for answers and I truly hope you
>get help soon. Just a thought: are you the one that feels divorce is
>the answer? Could it be that you are blamming yourself for something
>that you have No control over... Remember, Pain is Pain no matter where
>or how we have it and it must be stopped if at all possible.
>
>--
>Barbara Nesbitt
>Co-Moderator, Women's Health Forum
>OBGYN.net
>
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