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Re: YOUNGWOMEN: hymen + menstrual cycle
From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Mon, 24 Mar 2008 08:28:59 -0500 (CDT)
An observation- It seems to me like you are very concernced about your
daughter. Of course you are- you love her! But forcing her to have a
physical exam to prove to you whether or not she is sexually active may
not be the most loving way of dealing with the issue. Since she has
just had her first cycle, I assume that she is quite young. My
reccomendation would be to make sure that she is well educated about the
risks of engaging in sexual activity, and then to communicate to her
that your only concern is her well-being, but that you trust her. As
hard as it is for a parent to let go, and allow your daughter to learn
and possibly even make her own mistakes, she will appreciate your
respect. Note: I am a young woman, recently married, whose first
"encounter" was on my wedding night. Not being a parent myself, I admit
that I may not have a complete understanding of your distress, but if my
mother had assumed that I was sexually active, or even questioned me
about it, when I was a teenager, at best I would have resented the
intrusion on my privacy, at worst, I may have even acted out on it,
feeling that if I was to be accused of something, then I may as well be
doing it anyway. Please understand, I am not trying to be judgemental,
I am merely desiring to give another perspective. I hope this helps
you.
At Sun, 23 Mar 2008, izumi wrote:
>
>Thank you very much for taking the time to confirm this for me. Is
>there a way to prove by exam whether or not a girl is sexually active?
>Please let me know asap...Thanks
>Izumi
>
>At Fri, 21 Mar 2008, D. Ashley Hill, M.D. wrote:
>>
>>It sounds like your friend has a misperception about hymenal anatomy.
>>The hymen is not a barrier that prevents blood from getting out of the
>>vagina, it is a rim of tissue around the opening to the vagina. You can
>>still place a tampon into the vagina without damaging the hymen,
>>although as another person wrote, normal physical activity like bike
>>riding, sports, etc can cause small tears in the hymen. Also, although
>>you didn't mention it, having a "broken hymen" does not mean someone is
>>not a virgin. Being a virgin describes sexual penetration, not hymenal
>>damage from playing soccer, etc. Best wishes,
>>
>>Ashley Hill
>>
>>At Fri, 21 Mar 2008, izumi wrote:
>>>
>>>hi,
>>>I was told by a friend that my daughter's hymen would not be in place
>>>once she started her period. Can you please tell me if this is true?
>>>1month prior to her 1st cycle her hymen was intact per her physical with
>>>her pcp. Would this still be the case or is my friend correct when she
>>>stated that if the hymen were intact the blood could not exit the body.
>>>Please help a very confused and concerned mom. Thanks
>>>izumi
>>
>>--
>>D. Ashley Hill, MD
>>Division Director, Dept. of Obstetrics and Gynecology
>>Florida Hospital Orlando
>>Medical Director
>>Loch Haven Ob/Gyn Group
>>235 East Princeton Street, #200
>>Orlando, Florida 32804
>>http://www.lochhavenobgyn.com
>>
>>Please understand that due to time constraints I am unable
>>to answer any personal emails, therefore they will receive no response.
>>
>>These comments are general educational comments and should not
>>be construed as specific medical advice. The best person to
>>answer your health care questions is your physician or other
>>health care provider. Thank you very much.
>>
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