Re: how do you cope? I can't
From: Kayla (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 22 May 2003 09:12:10 -0500 (CDT)
Sweetheart,
I am so sorry about your loss. There are support groups at hospitals
and counselors out there for you to talk to about this. They are here
just to support women just like you. Check your local hospital and
phone book. Talk to your doctor too, he or she might be able to
recommended someone to you. Good luck! Remember although as hard as it
is, IT ISN"T YOUR FAULT!!!!
At Thu, 22 May 2003, bm wrote:
>
>How about calling a help-line and having someone to talk to that way?
>What makes you think it was your fault? I know it is hard to deal with,
>but you did not cause this, it was one of those unfortunate things.
>hope you find someone to confide in soon.
>
>At Thu, 22 May 2003, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote:
>>
>>At 3 months, I thought I had a miscarriage. but the bleeding stopped.
>>The next day, I started bleeding and cramping. It didn't stop after a
>>while so I went to the er. It turned out to be a abruptio placentae. I
>>spent the rest of the night in the hospital. And put on complete bed
>>rest. But I was still bleeding. The doctor at the hospital told me
>>that sometimes the baby will reattach itself. But that there was only a
>>10% chance that would happen for me. The bleeding still didn't stop,
>>and it just got worse.. And I miscarried yesterday. Today, i went and
>>had a d&c done. And I'm just at a loss of coping skills. I'm doing
>>this all on my own. And I can't tell anyone. But I don't know how to
>>handle this. I almost feel that losing this baby was my fault. That I
>>caused something to go wrong. That I didn't take care of myself and the
>>baby well enough. I think I killed my baby. How can this happen? And
>>how do you cope with it without support from anyone?
--
Kayla
**Just someone who cares, preparing for the medical field**
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