WOMENS-HEALTH Messages for July, 2002: Give me a break

Give me a break - Husbands behind curtains

From: KTP (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 9 Jul 2002 15:17:42 -0500 (CDT)

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If you don't like the way your doctor did the exam - find a new doctor. But bringing your husband is totally unnecessary and probably traumatic for him. My SO went to a GYN visit with me to discuss BC issues when we were first together. Watching the exam made him feel very upset and uncomfortable. The solution - go by myself. I've never had a nurse in the room with me during GYN procedures with male or female doctors except for a colposcopy because she needed assistance with all the biopsy materials. No one needs a chaperone - but feel free to ask for a nurse to join you if you feel threatened.

Pick a female doctor - if one isn't available, ask for a nurse to come in with you.

At Tue, 9 Jul 2002, Anonymous wrote: >
>At Mon, 8 Jul 2002, M. wrote:
>
>>Maria,
>I don't know where you live, but in most areas of the U.S. a nurse is
>required to be present during the exam. Even if not required, the
>doctor is foolish NOT to have a chaperone, in the event he is charged
>with sexual misconduct. I would see another doctor. Having said that,
>I think both of you need to view this in a different way. It is not a
>sexual experience; it is a medical exam, and hardly is orgasmic as you
>both seem to think. If your husband endured unprecedented "pain and
>anguish" by standing behind the curtain then perhaps he could benefit by
>doing volunteer work with Sept. 11 victims or in the Middle East.
>
>And , by the way, the husband isn't present during chidbirth to protect
>his wife's genitals. He is there to participate in the birth
>experience, which was denied for fathers in previous generations.
>

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