WOMENS-HEALTH Messages for May, 2002: Re: First time sex-- dry and painful please help!

Re: First time sex-- dry and painful please help!

From: Christy (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 31 May 2002 22:18:00 -0500 (CDT)

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I just thought I'd put in my two (unqualified) cents.... From my experience, sex is dry and horrible only when I am not aroused. It seems that arousal initiates ample lubrication all on its own. And if I orgasm before my partner, this natural lubrication quickly disappears and things get a bit unpleasant. My guess is that you have not developed your sexy sex drive - you are not seeing yourself as a sexual entity, the lubrication never comes, and you get no reward, causing less lubrication in the future. If I'm correct, and it is not some medical anomaly, I have no idea what you should do. You need to feel turned on! Do you ever feel turned on and sexy?, can you work from that angle and request situations that allow your own sexual arousal to blossom? I hope so. And regarding the hymen theory, I think yours is probably broken if you've had sex. I don't even know when mine broke, I never bled. THis is just one woman's opinions based on her own experience. Get sexy!

At Wed, 29 May 2002, anonymous wrote: >
>I recently got married and am having trouble with sex. It always hurts
>but I have never bled. We have had to use lubrication since we got back
>from our honeymoon. I was not sexually active previously. I also
>started birthcontrol in January (Alesse) and have no sex drive at all.
>It is very frustrating since I waited until I was married and now I
>don't even want to. I do anyway for my husband but he hates hurting me
>and so it is just a bad thing for both of us. I don't know what to do.
>I can only do one position also since that is painful enough and trying
>something else is very painful. Has my hymen not broken since I have
>never bled? What can I do to remedy the situation?

--
Christy Brown

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