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Re: ten and one half year old daughter's vaginal discharge and incontinence

From: save (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon, 27 Nov 2000 13:26:50 -0600 (CST)

Hi Jean,

Thank you so much for writing this. I have a 5 year old daughter who has the same problems. She has told me that her father has fondled her breasts. I have taken her to a pediatric gynecologist who states she is baffled because the "infections" are neither yeast nor bacteria derived.

I have been given xylocaine for when the redness gets to the point that she screams on urinaition. She has her very own sitz bath. He makes sure that he leaves no phsyical evidence and he has my daughter afraid to talk to anyone but me. She is in therapy but the therapist told me that kids this age almost never talk.

The courts and child protective services cannot protect her because there is no evidence only my word of what she has said and a "mystery" ailment of her vulva. The next step will be a biopsy but I'm avoiding it because she just doesn't deserve any more pain.

If you wonder how this can happen, look at "Crimes of Custody" at http://www.kcal.com/ .

Thank you again for posting your message. I'll be more careful about what I discuss in front of her (medical stuff only, I never talk about what she's said or my beliefs in front of her). I've done an odd thing. It seemed to me that she has doctors looking between her legs all the time so I bought her a hand mirror. I told her that if a doctor was looking she could look too! It seemed to give her some ownership of her body.

Hugs, 

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save


At Mon, 27 Nov 2000, Jean wrote:
>
>I had very much the same thing when I was a small child, including
>constant yeast infections, from about 3 yrs old until 10 or 11.  I
>remember the doctors gave me a general anaesthetic at 7yo to do the
>complete internal exam.  They thought I had masturbated and inserted
>something, or had been sexually abused.  They came up with nothing as
>far as I was ever told.  (But since growing up, even though I have no
>memory of abuse, I have wondered why it all stopped when we moved away
>from my stepfather.  I know as an adult, I only get these symptoms with
>an increased level of sexual activity.)
>
>I still remember the whole thing as extremely traumatic, not the pelvic
>exam itself (as I was under g.a.) but it was awful being carted off to
>so many doctors and inspected between the legs.  It sounds like you are
>being very careful with your daughter, but this is a tough situation.  I
>remember the worst part, was that my mother felt the need to discuss
>this with her friends, my teachers, etc.  I am 29 now, and still not
>over that! When you are a child, it's so hard to rationalise what's
>happening to you.  Please spare your daughter's dignity as much as
>possible, because she will probably remember the humiliation more than
>the actual exam/s.
>
>Also, there are special pediatric gynaecologists that would hopefully be
>best to deal with this.  I wish my mother had taken me to a kid
>specialist.
>





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