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Re: Aborthion or stillbirth???
From: j wang, M.D. (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 10 Oct 2000 08:46:31 -0500 (CDT)
Looking back 18 years is hard to do. It is more likely than not your
mother had a stillbirth, or if premature, the baby might have died after
birth. It isn't clear exactly how far along the pregnancy was at the
time.
I hope you are seeing professional help for your depression, as it does
seem to be pretty severe.
You should not feel guilty no matter what. If he died from stillbirth,
that's no one's fault. If (and very unlikely) your mother had a
termination, that would have been your mother's chioce, not yours. Also,
whatever happened, your mother has gone through a lot also, and she may
also benefit from counseling.
At Tue, 10 Oct 2000, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote:
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>At Mon, 9 Oct 2000, jwang, M.D. wrote:
>>
>>Speculation is not a good thing to do in such cases. Anything can
>>happen, and if she said she had a stillbirth, take it at that. It
>>sounds to me that she needs a lot of support from her friends a this
>>time rather than people trying to figure out what happened.
>>
>Well... I am not trying to speculate the case nor gossip about it
>because I have loads of spare time in my hand.
>Nor trying to pass the judgement on the issue.
>
>See. I am that 4 year old girl of her in 18 years later.
>As growing up as an only child, for a long time I have been wondering
>what really happened to my little brother.
>And I really feel sorry for him for what happened.
>
>Lately I am suffering from Depression and tried to suicide.
>Now my mom is upset and I feel extremly guilty.
>It would be really good to know that she didn't have the
>abortion because she thought she couldn't cope with two children.
>I only hope that she didn't choose me over him.
>This might be the burden that I have to live with for the rest of my
>life, that I let down two people who I love very much.
--
James Wang, M.D
Assitant Clinical Prof.
Tufts University School of Medicine
statements are informational only and should not constitute a medical plan or treatment recommendation.
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