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Re: Why am I not enjoying sexFrom: anonymous@obgyn.netFri, 29 Sep 2000 14:21:02 -0500 (CDT)
t Fri, 15 Sep 2000, Harvey S. Marchbein, M.D. wrote: > >Could be hormones, stress, money, family, kids or a combination. >Sometimes prescriptionor over the counter medications can play a role. >Statistically less likely to be the hormones though (unless you are on >the pill and in the group who has decreased libido secondary to the >pill). Speak to your doctor - 25 years old, adorable husband, two kids >- it's worth it. > >HSM >I have felt the same as you. After each of my children I no longer enjoyed sex. this lasted for a few years. My children were all born with a gap of around six to seven years between them. I have three. Most of the women I talk to have felt the same after having a baby, although some don't like to admit it because I think it makes them feel 'less sexy' if they don't enjoy sex! It can create a terrible strain on a relationship because in most cases men always get great pleasure from sex where as it is slightly harder for a lot of women to reach orgasm...especially after childbirth, which does cause an awful lot of trauma to that vital area, which is also necessary for sex! The problems really start when as you say, you can't fake it, because then your husband starts to think you don't find him attractive, or that your frigid - which is a bit of an insult really. I am not suggesting this is what is happening in your case, but it might help you to know that nearly all of my friends have gone off sex after childbirth. Who knows the reason why, perhaps it is a natural mechanism that somehow works as a contraceptive! Usually though it won't work because we women tend to have the sex anyway because we feel guilty about the way we feel and we don't want to deprive our husbands. As a matter of interest did you feel like this after your first baby? >At Thu, 14 Sep 2000, me wrote: >> >>I am a happily married 25 year old woman. I love my husband and find >>him quite adorable. We have been married for five years. I know that >>every couple has their dry sexual periods, but for the last year I have >>not wanted to have sex. We still do have sex, I know that it is very >>important to him. I can't pretend that I am enjoying myself. I am not >>a good liar. Could it be possible that my hormone levels are out of >>wack? We have two children. One who is three and one who is turning >>two. They are only 13 months apart. Could that somehow have played a >>part in this? I feel embarassed to talk to my doctor about this. I know >>my husband is very frustrated with this whole thing. I am too. > >-- >Harvey S. Marchbein, M.D. FACOG, FACS >Great Neck, New York > >**Note: Opinions expressed here are for educational purposes only >and, as such, do not constitute a physician-patient relationship. >This information is not intended to supplant the need for you to >consult with your physician prior to choosing therapeutic options >and/or interventions. > >**Private emails cannot be entertained due to time constraints, >consequently no private emails will receive a response. > >**Thank you for your understanding ;-) > >Please be aware that all e-mail on this forum is archived and can be viewed at >http://forums.obgyn.net/womens-health, >http://forums.obgyn.net/pregnancy-birth or >http://forums.obgyn.net/young-women >and is accessible to anybody on the >internet including internet search engines. This should be taken into >consideration before sending postings of a personal or confidential nature. >
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