Re: have given up
From: R. Daniel Braun, MD (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 31 Aug 2000 19:41:49 -0500 (CDT)
Robin's answer is superb as well as eloquent. Thank you.
RDB
At Thu, 31 Aug 2000, Robin wrote:
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>At Thu, 31 Aug 2000, mj wrote:
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>>I am so upset. I don't think i can ever go to another doctor again. I
>>have tried and I am obviously communictivly retarted. I am now terrifed
>>of any verbal interaction with a physician and see no point in seeing
>>any of my doctors anymore. The doctors on this forum are terrific.
>>Thank you for doing what you do.
>>
>>--
>>mj
>>
>What happened MJ? I am sorry that you are having a problem.
>
>Sometimes it is easier to communicate with a physician over a computer
>because we aren't looking at them directly. It can be easier over a
>computer as opposed to the telephone because we don't have to interact
>verbally. What about writing a letter to your Dr. voicing your
>concerns and problems and mailing it to him/her? Or, if they make their
>email address accessable to patients, maybe you can try that. Not
>everything can be solved over the computer, but this would be a step to
>help get you to feel more comfortable with your Dr.
>
>Not going to a Dr. anymore is not a good idea either. Have you
>considered talking with a counselor about why you can't communicate with
>your Drs.? I'm not saying anything has happened to you in the past with
>Drs., but in my particular situation, when I was nine, I was rather
>sick. My Pediatrician knew something was wrong (high WBC, temp,
>abdominal pain...all pointed to Appendicitis). He sent me to a surgeon,
>and the surgeon handed my mother an Rx for Tylenol #2 and said, "Here,
>this will make her feel better." The Surgeon didn't believe me. Well,
>within two days, I was in the OR having my appendix removed by this
>surgeon's partner, and finding out if we had waited much longer, it
>would have ruptured. I was in the hospital for THREE WEEKS! My surgeon
>left for two weeks on vacation, so I had to deal with this less than
>caring surgeon. I was running a very high fever, but again, nothing was
>wrong! To make a long story short, I had peritonitis. This surgeon
>opened my wound, in my hospital room without any type of anesthesia,
>pain medicine, etc.!!!!!!
>
>What happened to me as a result of this Dr.? Well, for one, I could have
>died had my mother and father not said that they were pulling me out of
>that hospital and taking me to Children's Hospital in Philadelphia if
>something wasn't done immediately. Secondly, I found it very hard to
>trust Drs. and I have an extreme fear of surgery (more so than normal).
>I have worked through this, but it took time. Working out my fears with
>a professional helped me gain trust in the medical profession, as well
>as made my life a lot easier!!!!
>
>I hope my experience will help you in some way. I hope that you can get
>through this time!!
>
>--
>Robin
>
>--
>~Robin~
>
>I'm not a Dr. or any type of Medical Professional. The information I share is based on what I have experienced personally or what I have learned.
>
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R. Daniel Braun, MD FACOG FOG
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