Re: RAPE
From: jwang,MD (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Mon, 31 Jul 2000 07:55:36 -0500 (CDT)
I am sorry for what you have gone through. Rape is one of the most evil
of crimes. It is good that you reported it, at least you are able to
talk about it. Hopefully, even the treat of prosecution will scare a
few years off of his life.
The laws vary in different states, so I don't know if the hospital must
actually report the crime. Even of they do, they probably do not report
your name or ant specifics about you. In most cases, whether or not
further action is taken depends on if the victim wants to press charges.
That is a very difficult decision to make.
Healing takes time. Hopefully you WILL be able to have a trusting
relationship with a man. Sometimes, it takes help with the aid of
counseling. Don't feel strange if you think you need it (most of us
should have it for a variety of other reasons).
Good luck with the healing.
At Mon, 31 Jul 2000, KAREN wrote:
>
>I just want to let everyone know that I did report the rape to the
>police yesterday. I think that was the hardest thing that I have done.
>I wanted to wait until someone could go with me but the lady at the
>police station never gave me that option she just sent a police officer
>over to my house. I dont't know why I decided to report it. Then the
>lady at the station said that the hospital was obligated by law to
>report it, is that true do they have to report what happened? I wish
>that there is some way to tell this person how much he has hurt me, but
>I don't think he cares whether or not he hurts other people. Will I
>ever get to the point where I can trust a man and have a reletionship?
>
>At Sun, 30 Jul 2000, Christine wrote:
>>
>>Karen,
>>It takes so much work to be able to get to the point of talking about
>>it. For me I had to write about it alot before I could talk to someone.
>>I journaled, I posted on a message board, I wrote emails to other
>>survivors I found on the net. I still have a very difficult time saying
>>the "r" word, so I still understand how difficult it is. For me it was
>>and is easiest to talk to one of my very closest friends. She was one
>>of the first I told. Do you know someone else besides your parents, (a
>>friend, teacher, another relative, a friend's parent) you can speak
>>with? Have you thought about talking with a counselor. I know it's a
>>rough thing to do, but calling a rape hotline can really help you
>>"trying out" talking about it. You remain completely anonymous, and the
>>people there are very helpful. The ones I spoke with were also
>>survivors.
>>I found that it was very difficult to start talking about it at first,
>>but once I finally was able to, (with just a few people I was most
>>comfortable with), it helps me SO MUCH to talk. It's just very
>>difficult to begin talking about it.
>>Keep posting, and you may email me if it will help at lgi9060571@aol.com
>>Take care,
>>Christine
>>
>>At Sun, 30 Jul 2000, KAREN wrote:
>>>
>>>I posted a message here about one week ago. I was raped and I
>>>appreciate all the advice that everyone has given to me. I still
>>>haven't been able to talk to anyone about what happened and I am still
>>>afraid to report it. I need to know how to get over these feelings they
>>>are consuming my entire life. I don't know what else to do. Please can
>>>anyone help on being able to talk about this with other people. My
>>>family blames me so I can't even go to them. Please help me
>>>
>>>--
>>>Karen
>>>
>>>--
>>>Karen
>>>
>--
>Karen
>
--
J Wang, M.D
Assitant Clinical Prof.
Tufts University School of Medicine
>**Note: Opinions expressed here are for educational purposes only
>and, as such, do not constitute a physician-patient relationship.
>This information is not intended to supplant the need for you to
>consult with your physician prior to choosing therapeutic options
>and/or interventions.>
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