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Re: abortion
From: Penny (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed, 19 Jan 2000 20:40:41 -0200
Virginia,
Your daughter is very fortunate to have such an understanding and supportive
mother! And still, your daughter has a difficult decision to make. How
lucky she is to have a choice! Many people would take this freedom from
women, based on their own limited experience. I know first hand how
opinionated people can be. (until they walk in anothers shoes, they just
don't know...) I have read in medical literature that an embryo does not
feel pain. But we really do not know for sure. One thing is certain, an
abortion causes pain to the woman, physical at the time, mental for many
years after. Birthing pain is felt by both mother and baby, that is known.
And having a baby without a partner, no matter how supportive family may be,
she is still in for a rough road. Adoption is also an option. The pain of
birth is still there to be delt with and the emotional pain will last a life
time. None of these are easy choices. And to add to this, the rollercoaster
ride her harmones are taking her on makes it that much harder. She must be
honest with herself! What were her beliefs about abortion, adoption, and
single parenthood prior to this pregnancy? That in itself could be the
answer. God Bless You Both.
Penny
> -----Original Message-----
> From: womens-health@obgyn.net [mailto:womens-health@obgyn.net]On Behalf
> Of just me
> Sent: Wednesday, January 19, 2000 3:05 PM
> To: Multiple recipients of list WOMENS-HEALTH
> Subject: Re: abortion
>
> At Tue, 18 Jan 2000, virginia wrote:
> >
> >My 18 year old daughter is pregnant. Unfortunatly, before coming to me,
> >she found a phone number in the yellow pages which proclaimed help for
> >unwed, pregnant teens. It turns out that this is an organization run by
> >a Right-to-Life group. They told my daughter, who was 5 weeks pregnant
> >at the time, that the embryo can feel pain at this early stage. She is
> >now 81/2 weeks pregnant, and is agonizing over a decision whether or not
> >to have this baby, because she was told by these people that the embryo
> >will feel the pain of an abortion. She has to make a decision soon-very
> >soon. I need to be able to give her an informed, unbiased answer to
> >this. I will support her, no matter what her decision, but I know she
> >is not ready to be a mother, and I would hate for her to make this
> >momentous decision based on erroneous information. Please help-and
> >soon!!!!!
>
> >From what I have read and viewed, a 12 week old fetus can feel pain,
> earlier than that I cannot say. I did see an actual abortion video,
> which confimed my belief that it should not be done. The baby was
> moving as if trying to get away from the instruments.
>
> Has your daughter considered adoption at all?
> There are so many women out there unable to have children who would love
> an opportunity to love a child.
> I have 2 little girls myself, I am almost 26, and because of an early
> hysterectomy (age 23) can not experience this ever again. Everytime I
> see babies now I think about what Ive done and sometimes regret it, but
> then think about how my whole family suffered because I was unable to do
> things with them.
>
> Please have her leave this option open.
>
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