PREGNANCY-BIRTH Messages for August, 1999: Re: Insensitive Doctor

Re: Insensitive Doctor

From: Angela

anonymous@obgyn.net

Mon, 16 Aug 1999 17:26:44 -0500 (CDT)

I to feel so bad you had to go through this. I could understand if a patient was difficult or causing problems for the Dr, but otherwise when you in so much pain and in that situation where you really need some compassion and undertanding it hurts when its not offered.

I was so lucky with my son being born, I hope and pray this time around is the same... being in a different city with a different Dr is hard, but we all get through it.. again im sorry you had to have that experience. I would politely mention it face to face with your Dr and just let him know it hurt you and your not angry just hurt by it. You will feel much better if you do that.

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>Dear Crystal,
>Sorry to read about your experiences during childbirth. I had similar
>feelings sfter giving birth to my first baby in 1996. On this occasion,
>there were no doctors present at all, but because my labour took so long
>and covered so many hospital shifts, there were four midwives at
>different times. Three of these were wonderful, but the last one (and
>she was the one who finally delivered my baby girl), was very
>unsympathetic and unkind. I felt as though I was a burden to everyone
>and was a failure. She had no words of encouragement, in fact she
>barely spoke to either myself or my husband, and was very cold in her
>approach to my episiotomy and the resulting stitches she put in, which
>was a very traumatic experience. In fact, that describes very well how
>I felt for a long time after giving birth - traumatised. However, I can
>tell you that the wounds, both physical and emotional, do heal. I am
>twenty three weeks pregnant with my second baby now, and this time I
>feel a lot stronger and more in control. I will not be treated like
>that second time around! And neither will you!
>I hope you soon feel more at ease. It helped me not to see my poor
>treatment as a personal attack, which is difficult when you're feeling
>so vulnerable, but to view the situation objectively. Your doctor, and
>my midwife, were either having bad days, or are in the wrong profession.
>Either way, they deserve our sympathy!
>
>Best wishes.
>
>--
>Liz
>

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