Re: Vanishing Twin ?

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Thanks for the reply. I'm sorry that you had to go through this too. It seems though that you dealt with it in a far more mature & philosophical way than I currently am. Right now, all I can do is cry & try to persuade myself that the doctors are wrong and the other twin will be fine. I suppose you could say I'm in denial ... or whatever. You're right though.... it's best to have this happen early on and get to keep one baby than to lose both at 14 weeks or 16 weeks.

..... I'll post agin on Feb. 19th after my next u/s. At that point I can no longer deny anything and I will have to see things as they are.

One question though ..... at what stage do you stop grieving for the lost twin .... really what I need to know is ... when do you stop crying ? I went asleep last night crying And woke up this morning in tears again. I am crying as I type this .... when will that awful howling sense of loss leave me ?

At Fri, 29 Jan 1999, Tracy wrote: >
>Ann,
>I also have been through this myself in 1993. I had no idea that I was
>having twins until the spotting started (at 8 weeks, 1 week after I
>found out I was pregnant), and I had both an abdominal and vaginal
>ultrasound. It may not help, but I will take a stab at this. The way I
>see it is that one fetus must have had some abnormality, and with the
>doctor telling me that in my case(identical same sac) that I would only
>have a 50% chance of carrying to term anyway, I think in some way it was
>best. If I had carried longer, I could have lost both, but I didnt, I
>now have a beautiful 4 1/2 year old little girl!
>
>--
>Tracy L. Trull
>Editorial Assistant, International Coordinator, OBGYN.net
>http://www.obgyn.net/women/bios/trull.htm
>tracy.trull@obgyn.net
>

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Ann Stapleton,
Dublin,
Ireland.

Mom to Benjamin born July 20th 1992
       Sarah born August 10th 1994
       Emma born July 6th 1995
       Alexander born December 30th 1996
       Suzanne born March 2nd 1998
 and 'the beanie twins' due September 9th 1999

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