PREGNANCY-BIRTH Messages for February, 2003: Re: Trying to conceive and husband does not ejaculate during intercourse

Re: Trying to conceive and husband does not ejaculate during intercourse

From: concerned (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 28 Feb 2003 11:40:07 -0600 (CST)

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At Fri, 28 Feb 2003, jen wrote: >
>At Fri, 28 Feb 2003, concerned wrote:
>>
>>My husband and I have been actively trying to conceive since December
>>2002...He has very little problem ejaculating during masturbation. Now that
>>we’re trying to conceive, he masturbates to the point of ejaculation,
>>then he quickly inserts his penis in my vagina and does his thing...>>>>
>>
...Should we keep having sex the way we've been doing it for a year and go >>see a doctor if we haven't conceived by then or should we see someone
>>before then?...

>
>Hi, i am not a dr. this is just my opinion. I am sure you could get
>pregnant this way because he will "finish" inside of you, right? Anyway,
>IF Iwere you I would think about perhaps seeing a therapist(some
>specialize in sexual issues, marital issues, etc....) Obviously he can
>ejaculate and it has happened before between the two of you, yet it
>doesn't sound very healthy to have to conceive this way or have a sexual
>relationship this way. Are you saying that he normally never ejaculates
>when you have sex? Obviously you have to do what is comfortable for you
>at this time, but be real with your feelings and think about all
>decision factors here. I am sure you will both figure out what is best
>for your realtionship(having a baby will put all new levels into the
>marital relationship) Best wishes.

Thanks for your advice and good wishes!

Actually, the only reason that this is a potential "problem" is because we are actively trying to make a baby.

I would be more concerned about it being a psychological/marital problem if it had only just started happening, but it's been going on since we got together (12 years or so). I figure (literally) different strokes for different folks (!)

Before we started trying to make a baby, we would have sex and he wouldn't ejaculate and it was fine with both of us. We've talked about it on numerous occasions and have both felt fulfilled and satisfied with our sex life (of which orgasm is only a part).

For us, "baby making sex" is just different than "regular sex." My concerns aren't about our sex life, rather, they are about the consequences (if any) of our "style" of "baby making sex" on our likelihood of conception.

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