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Re: Just need some emotional support right now

From: Meg (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 31 Jan 2003 11:12:27 -0600 (CST)

At Thu, 30 Jan 2003, Amy wrote: >
>I posted last week that I have two children and had just found out that
>I am pregnant. Positive hpt's and blood test. I was VERY emotional and
>upset about this. But the more I thought about having another baby, the
>more I started liking the idea. It was unplanned and a shock but I
>started feeling very blessed and happy about another pregnancy. I
>started posting to this forum again and it was wonderful. By the
>weekend, I was SO excited to be pregnant again- even if it was
>unexpected. Then I started bleeding heavily last night and had severe
>cramps. I went to my doctor this morning and now I find out that I am
>miscarrying. I am so upset. I feel like I have just been on an evil
>roller coaster ride. I feel all torn up inside. I feel guilty that I
>reacted so unfavorably toward the pregnancy last week. I am scheduled
>to have a d&c tomorrow. I feel awful right now. The cramps are so
>intense at times and that is the least of it. Because how I feel
>emotionally is far worse. Any emotional support would be appreciated. I
>just can't seem to stop crying. I called a friend and she just made me
>feel worse. She said, "Well, you did't want this pregnancy anyway, so
>dry your tears and be happy- not many of us have our mistakes erased for
>us". I don't know that I will ever talk to her again. I know that I
>was really emotional last week, but the news caught me off guard. Once
>I collected my thoughts and myself I started loving this wonderful,
>little surprise.
>
>--
>-Amy-
>

Amy-don't blame yourself. Even with a planned pregnancy it's completely normal to have mixed feelings about the whole thing. You didn't cause this! Your friend was probably just trying to help but was pretty insensitive-let those tears flow and let yourself be miserable for a little while. You need to grieve in order to get over this. Hopefully you have someone who can help you out with your other children for a couple of days so that you can rest and try to feel better physically. Take good care of yourself over the next days and weeks. 

--
Meg



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