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Re: Depressed after a missed abortion message to kristine

From: sara (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 5 Nov 2002 17:36:22 -0600 (CST)

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I too had a missed abortion, and it's been 8 months. I was VERY depressed for a long time. I still am sometimes since I have had trouble conceiving again. It takes time, but try to find someone to talk to who will listen to you and not jugde you and say stupid things like, "well, atleast it wasn't 6 months along," or "well, at least it was early. it's not like it was a baby yet." If you want a friend email me sabtem4vr@aol.com and I will listen to you. I agree with the other respondent who said that counseling would be a good idea. I know I needed, but I felt like that made me a weak person. It's just not easy, but you have to go through the grief to get to the other side, if that makes any sense. I too felt better after my due date, but still think about it daily. It's just not so painful anymore.

At Mon, 4 Nov 2002, T wrote: >
>At Mon, 4 Nov 2002, kristine wrote:
>>
>>I had a missed abortion at 9 weeks. It has been three weeks since I had
>>the D&C and I can't stop thinking about the baby I lost. I am extremely
>>depressed! Is this normal?
>
>Dear Kristine,
>I am sorry for your loss. I think what you're going through is
>completely normal. I suffered a missed abortion at 12 weeks on December
>31, 2001 and felt depressed on and off until shortly after my due date
>in July. I think not being able to conceive again made it worse.
>Although I had tremendous support from my family right after the
>miscarriage, they didn't really understand why I was so sad many months
>later. I stopped talking to them about my feelings and just dealt with
>it myself, but looking back I think it probably would have been better
>to get some kind of counseling, just to have someone to talk to.
>
>It's been nearly a year, and I still think about my baby every so often
>and what might have been had she or he been healthy, but I haven't felt
>depressed for several months. I think for me the healing started after
>my baby was due. It just takes time, and everyone is different in how
>much time they need to get over such a great loss. Take care of
>yourself.

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