Re: Suitable topics for this forum / babies with down syndrome part 2
From: Eni (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 31 Oct 2002 09:16:23 -0600 (CST)
Thank you for sharing. I also have a special needs child and I'm not
going to go into how I feel one way or the other about bringing children
into this world. I agree with you completely. I don't have time nor
the authority to judge others. I find that this sort of judging comes
from those that aren't usually in a special needs situation and who are
trying to use our situations to manipulate others into doing what *they*
think is right. I don't have time to save the world nor do I care to.
I'm not afforded that sort of control over others lives. I don't know
why others strive for it.
God bless you and your family and your time with your precious one.
At Thu, 31 Oct 2002, Judi wrote:
>
>I didn't join the special needs club by choice; my son was totally
>"normal" until 9 months of age, then began displaying symptoms of his
>disease. As much as I adore my son, I know I will not choose to have
>another child with the same disease, for many, many reasons that I hope
>none of you will ever have to think about. But to take my personal
>feelings and impose them on others in the same situation-- sorry, but I
>am not omniscient, I can't and won't do that. It is hard to be a Mom to
>a dying child, or a disabled child, or any child at all for that matter.
>However I don't think it takes special people to do raise special needs
>kids-- we become parents in raising our kids, and if parents of special
>needs are different, it's the child who makes it so.
>
>I can understand people's reasons for choosing not to have a child that
>will be ill or handicapped. In the end, we don't have as much control
>over these things as we'd like to believe, there are no guarantees in
>life except death and taxes, but the only certainty for me is that I
>have not been put on earth to make life harder for other people facing
>serious decisions by telling them what to do and by judging their
>choices. I am here to be a mother to my son, a wife to my husband, a
>good human being, and to support others as much as I can.
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