Re: Disappointing OBGYN :-(
From: Kathy (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 29 Sep 2000 22:14:02 -0500 (CDT)
Hope, I've also been following your story and have been deeply
concerned. I'm so glad you at least tried another OB, even if he turned
out to not be the one you need right now. It is very discouraging when
a doctor you want to put your faith and trust in just completely misses
the boat. I've had it happen more than once. But the good side is
there are also EXCELLENT doctors out there who WILL listen to you and
address your needs. Please don't give up because this one screwed up.
Keep looking! I used to struggle with clinical depression (chemical
imbalances run in my family), and it took attempting counseling with 5
different therapists over a 10 year period before I finally found
someone who could really help me. It's been 10 years since then, and I
have not had a recurrence of depression. The point is, there IS a doc
out there who will help you and meet your needs. You just have to keep
looking, and don't give up!! We're all here for you, and want very much
to see you get the care necessary.
Good luck, and please keep us informed!! I'll continue to keep you and
your baby in my prayers.
--
Kathy F.
At Fri, 29 Sep 2000, Hope wrote:
>
>Hi !
>I was so excited when I got an appointent to an obgyn, that specializes
>ín treating colleagues. But what a disappointment that turned out to
>be...
>He didn't listen to my concerns at all. He said that the psychotropics
>I take during pregnancy don't really interest him; I should discuss my
>concerns regarding meds with my shrink.
>He also said that since all previous pregnancies had gone so well (he
>failed to read in my journal the notion of 34 weeker twins, one with
>hydrocephalus, and the stillbirth), that I should stop worrying.
>He said that induction is always dangerous, and that c-section should
>not be performed, as I had previously successful vaginal births in my
>history.
>He said there was no danger of premature labour or SGA, even thou he
>didn't get the babys measurements well, because she/he was in such a bad
>position at the time, and saw nothing wrong with me working on call, and
>continue sports etc.
>He said I could come back in 4 weeks, and that he hoped I'd go into
>labor by the 40 th week. He saw no reason for increased monitoring, or
>visits or anything.
>So, that pretty much sums up my less than comforting session with the
>big-shot obgyn at the university hospital...
>Any suggestions on what to do next ?
>Obviously, I should just carry on as is, and think "que sera, sera", but
>I don't find that strenght in me.
>Or should I just live as if I weren't pregnant...?
>I'm so tired, so sad and feel so defeated and alone.
>Thanks for listening,
>Hope
>
>--
>With kind regards, Hope Larsen
>
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