PREGNANCY-BIRTH Messages for September, 2000: Re: Disappointing OBGYN :-(

Re: Disappointing OBGYN :-(

From: Nik (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 29 Sep 2000 14:03:22 -0500 (CDT)

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Hope, I am so sorry that this person failed to respect your concerns and showed such a complete lack of interest. It speaks volumes about his so-called professionalism. However I am really heartened by the fact that you have such a reasoned reaction to this appointment. First, you accept that the appointment was not successful and you know why. Second, you intend to do something to get a successful outcome, which is very positive. And third, you have an idea of what it is you need. It sounds as though the obgyn feels out of depth discussing psychotropics, and many specialists can be pretty brusque when they find they don't have the answers! Please try not to feel defeated and alone - you certainly don't sound defeated, because you are not prepared to accept the situation as is. And you are not alone - I know this is only a computer message but I am not the only person who is following your story with sympathy and concern. I'm afraid I know very little which will be of practical use to you. The only similarities I can draw are that I suffered from an eating disorder in my early twenties and felt very alone and scared because I did not know that that was what the problem was. When I asked for help, I was given bad advice on several occasions. It took me three years (with much dispondancy in between) to find someone who understood what was wrong with me, and how to fix it. When i found her, I knew instinctively that the advice was right. But it didn't take away the pain the ANGER which I felt towards people who should have been able to help me, but chose to ignore what i was saying. You have to keep fighting, for yourself and for your baby. Keep going back, find a different specialist, find several different specialists, and keep telling them there is a problem until you find someone who can fix it. I'm sure that the doctors on this board can put you in touch with someone if you give them enough information. I hope and pray that everything will work out well for you. love, nik

At Fri, 29 Sep 2000, Hope wrote: >
>Hi !
>I was so excited when I got an appointent to an obgyn, that specializes
>ín treating colleagues. But what a disappointment that turned out to
>be...
>He didn't listen to my concerns at all. He said that the psychotropics
>I take during pregnancy don't really interest him; I should discuss my
>concerns regarding meds with my shrink.
>He also said that since all previous pregnancies had gone so well (he
>failed to read in my journal the notion of 34 weeker twins, one with
>hydrocephalus, and the stillbirth), that I should stop worrying.
>He said that induction is always dangerous, and that c-section should
>not be performed, as I had previously successful vaginal births in my
>history.
>He said there was no danger of premature labour or SGA, even thou he
>didn't get the babys measurements well, because she/he was in such a bad
>position at the time, and saw nothing wrong with me working on call, and
>continue sports etc.
>He said I could come back in 4 weeks, and that he hoped I'd go into
>labor by the 40 th week. He saw no reason for increased monitoring, or
>visits or anything.
>So, that pretty much sums up my less than comforting session with the
>big-shot obgyn at the university hospital...
>Any suggestions on what to do next ?
>Obviously, I should just carry on as is, and think "que sera, sera", but
>I don't find that strenght in me.
>Or should I just live as if I weren't pregnant...?
>I'm so tired, so sad and feel so defeated and alone.
>Thanks for listening,
>Hope
>
>--
>With kind regards, Hope Larsen
>

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