Re: Am I hurting the baby?

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-----Original Message----- From: anonymous@obgyn.net [mailto:anonymous@obgyn.net Sent: Wednesday, August 30, 2000 2:46 PM To: Multiple recipients of list PREGNANCY-BIRTH Subject: Re: Am I hurting the baby?

Any time someone does something against your will that hurts you either physically or emotionally, it is NOT okay. If you've asked your husband to stop the rough horseplay, explained that it hurts, etc. and he has ignored your wishes, it might be time to get serious with him and/or seek some counseling. Furthermore, a 33-week pregnant mother being pushed off of a bed is NOT okay under any circumstances and by all means, this behavior needs to stop ***immediately.*** Your baby's most likely okay physically as he's well protected in there, but if for nothing other than respect for his wife and unborn child, your husband needs to comply with your wishes and behave appropriately. If you're concerned about injury to your baby, don't hesitate to mention it to your doctor.

Intercourse should be fine unless you've been advised otherwise by a medical caregiver or unless it results in regular contractions. As far as the sono, most doctors won't do a sono this late in the game simply for the purpose of determining sex, but if you feel comfortable asking, you don't have much to lose.

I would be more concerned with the other issue, frankly. I'm sure your husband means no harm to you or your baby, but when his wife is reduced to tears after "play," it's time to stop.

Good luck to you...

Tonja

At Wed, 30 Aug 2000, anonymous@obgyn.net wrote: >
>I wanted to ask, my husband i sometimes very tuff he plays to tuff, and
>sometimes pushes me around or pushes me off the bed but very ruff, and
>that hurts my feelings so i start crying, and i cry for ever, could the
>baby be hurt that way, or is it okay that he does that? and is having
>intercourse with him okay this far along that i am? I wanted to ask too,
>i want to know if i am having a boy they had told me at the hopital that
>it was a boy but could i ask my doctor for a sono done, or is it to late
>i will be 33 weeks when i go back.

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Tonja Brossette
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tonja.brossette@obgyn.net

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