PREGNANCY-BIRTH Messages for May, 2000: Re: is it his child?

Re: is it his child?

From: AMD (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 30 May 2000 13:30:58 -0500 (CDT)

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This isn't a medical opinion at all, but I thought I would also add that it would be in everyone's best interest to conclusively determine paternity.

If he continues to voluntarily support the child, this could be construed as an "assumption of paternity" in the event that the issue ever went to court -- even if DNA tests prove otherwise. I know it sounds crazy, but it happens. By supporting the child now, he could end up with the legal obligation even if later testing concludes he is not the biological father.

I don't know if the two of you have long term plans, but I would certainly want to be sure that my boyfriend or husband was the father of the child before "we" got roped into paying a lifetime of child support. Any way you look at it, this money will not be available to his future wife and family if it is court-ordered child support.

Also, if he is the father, it will probably be in his best interest to get an official agreement regarding child support and visitation. These "informal" arrangements frequently backfire as time goes on.

I admire him for being responsible, and if the baby is his I certainly hope he continues. Good luck.

Andrea

At Fri, 26 May 2000, wing wrote: >
>At Wed, 24 May 2000, Claudia Twisdale RN wrote:
>>
>>Only a blood test for paternity can tell the truth. BUT Sex in July can
>>sure = a baby in April. PS, if he is YOUR boyfreiend my is he now a
>>Dad?
>>
>>At Tue, 23 May 2000, wing wrote:
>>>
>>>My boyfriend's ex had a baby and I am not sure if it's his.They met July
>>>11,1998 and by August 20,1998 after missing her period by a few days she
>>>announced she was pregnant.They only knew each other a short while and
>>>this all seems to have happened so quickly.Although she was given a due
>>>date of May 4,1999 she had told him that it was likely that this baby
>>>would be born permature by a month or so because her first child was
>>>born a month early.The baby was born April 30,1999(at 7lbs 15ozs) Is it
>>>possible that she was already pregnant?How could I firgure the time of
>>>conception?
>Thank you for your reply.I too have suggested him getting tested.The
>child lives out of state and he has sent monthly support( although it
>has never been court ordered)yet the mother will not allow his to be a
>part of the baby's life.He has tried many times to work out some kind of
>visitation but no such luck.I feel bad that the child has to miss out on
>knowing what a good Dad he is.Although there is a question about
>paternity he has acted responsible.

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