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Re: Am I expacting too much? I feel desperate - long message
From: shye (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 17 Jun 2003 13:58:44 -0500 (CDT)
Poor thing, but guess what, I am kind of going through a similar
situation. I have just been recently diagnosed with pcos and I have
been depressed ever since. My bf is kind of understanding but he always
says don't worry about it, and of course he can say that because he
already has a little girl from a previous marriage. He only wants
antoher child because that is what I want. I have just been put on
cyclessa (bc pills ) for the next 3 months. My mood changes like the
weather and out here in Texas that is every 5 minutes. My sister is
going through the same thing so she can't be of any help because she is
learning to handle all of this herself. I am so sad because it is like
every where I look I see someone pregnant or a picture or a baby and ALL
of my friends are pregnant or just had their babies and look at me. Then
on top of that I keep getting bv and yeast infections sometimes causing
bladder infections. I have not tried any fertility drugs yet though. I
was told to get on bc for 3 months and then come back and they will
start me on something. SO I know everything you are going through and
atleast I know, I am not alone in the world. If you ever need a pal or
someone to talk to please let me know and I will give you my direct
email and maybe we can console and help each other through this horrible
time
At Mon, 16 Jun 2003, asagao wrote:
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>I feel so alone in this one. I feel as if my bf does not help me
>enough. He thinks that recently being diagnosed with PCOS I exagerate
>everything too much. He thinks that this is a small problem, and does
>not understand the burden of not being able to get pregnant, my fight
>with weigth gain, my concerns about my future health, and my mood
>swings. We are living in The Netherlands and since the health care
>system here is so bad and slow, we are gonig to Germany for treatment.
>It is 3 hours train ride just to go there. We have to do this for every
>US exams or blood test. We are both working so this is very very
>difficult for us. No holiday this year. I am on Clomid since 4 months
>but nothing happens. I have those visual problems, they don't go away,
>my gynecologist does not care. Here it is impossible to have my eyes
>checked before 3-4 months, beacause this is considered "not urgent". My
>appointmnet with the ER is in 2 months again in Germany. I am
>practically starving myself, but, if I eat 1-2 normal meal, I gain 2
>kilos and then I can only loose them in 1 week. My stomach is too big,
>I am almost always bloated. Not knowing if this is due to Clomid, or
>PCOS I feel so desperate. When I talk about all this with my bf, and
>when I say that I feel so desperate and sad, and useless, what he says
>is always "you exagerate every little problem too much!". This is not a
>little problem for me, I have nobody else to talk to, except him. But
>he is very concentrated on his work, he is always on business trips or
>work late, etc. How are you dealing with all these feelings alone? Am I
>expecting too much of him. I just feel so alone on this one, I just
>cannot deal anymore.
>I am so sorry that you had to read all this venting, but I needed to get
>it out.
>I really need some advice for dealing with this, thank you all.
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