PCOS Messages for May, 2003: Re: just diagnosed and feels like my fault

Re: just diagnosed and feels like my fault

From: Sonnet (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 22 May 2003 18:58:02 -0500 (CDT)

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Sorry this reply is a day or two late, I had a problem sending this through the first time! Let's hope it pots this time! :)

GET A NEW ENDO!! Don't ever go back to that one because frankly, they don't know their a** from their elbow - and don't let them make you feel bad about it either!

Listen - One of the main symptoms of PCOS and IR is *unexplained weight gain.* It is a symptom of a disease, and has nothing to do with anything you've done or not done! You did NOT bring PCOS on yourself. Any doctor that makes you feel that way is practicing very poor medicine and, IMHO, a pretty terrible human being!

You're right that you're not at all that overweight. PCOS symptoms can be progressive, so yes, it's possible that just recently this started being an issue for you.

Many women with PCOS are not overweight - they say 50% - so tell me, if weight gain caused PCOS, what on earth would have caused the PCOS problems for these women? A while ago we talked about it on this board and the majority of women with weight issues had other symptoms of PCOS *first* - so the weight didn't cause their PCOS either. Just like it sure isn't causing yours! (Please, if everyone who was over 160lbs was infertile, there would be no babies in the world!)

Good doctors that understand PCOS do exist, unfortunately sometimes you have to go through some experiences like this before you find them. Please don't let this doctor make you feel bad - they are WRONG. Keep trying new doctors until you get to one who actually knows something about PCOS, but don't go back to that one! (In fact, I'd not only switch, I'd write a nasty note to that endo telling them exactly WHY you won't be using their services! They need to know when they're doing people a disservice!)

Read through the notes on this board, there's a lot of support here! Post or email if you've got any questions, and hang in there. Once you find the right doctor it does get better!

At Tue, 20 May 2003, Alyssa wrote: >
>I have just been diagnosed with insulin resistance and PCOS. My GYN is
>great but since my fasting insulin was 116, she was a little nervous
>about treating me without seeing an endo. I saw my endo today and he
>made me feel like this was my fault because I am "overweight". I have
>not been overweight except in the past 2 years. Seems like no matter
>what I do-how much I exercise or eat right-I keep gaining. When I was
>married 2 years ago I weighed 130 pounds (am 5'7") and now weigh 165 and
>have made no major changes in any behavior. Basically, my endo said I
>just needed to lose weight and exercise more. I started my period when
>I was 12 and have always had this problem and was not overweight then. I
>don't understand how he gets this. Is it possible that I have always
>had this condition but just started with insulin resistance in the last
>couple of years and this is why the weight gain? I have been sitting
>here all evening feeling horrible-as if my failure to be able to get
>pregnant is my fault for not losing the weight now but I don't think
>this can be right, can it? If anything I am really only 5-10 pounds
>overwight. If anybody could offer any words of wisdom or encouragement
>that would be so great. I am in desperate need of someone who has been
>here. Should I get a second opinion? Thanks so much.

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email always welcome: sonnet_fitz@hotmail.com

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