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Re: no subject received Tue, 29 Apr 2003 13:48:40 -0500
From: Leigh (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 29 Apr 2003 23:40:14 -0500
I was in a wedding last july that I dreaded, but really wanted to
participate in. She is a very good friend of mine and all.
So here i am, one of 7 bridesmaids. I am a size 24 and the rest weren't any
bigger than a size 9 (maybe). I dreaded the dress fittings and she set
aside a day for the two of us to go alone to find me a dress. It was
humiliating for me and an eye opening experience for her. She was so great
about it though. We weren't able to find anything to fit me, that would go
with what she had picked out.
So the little smarty (who lives 5 hrs from me) asked around and found a very
talented seamstress who lives halfway between us, and picked out a pattern
and the material and shipped it to her and arranged for me to spend a day
getting a dress custom made. It was actually really great. The dress
looked great and went with all the other girls dresses. She had chosen mix
n match styles from David's bridal and so my style didn't stand out at all.
It was definitely a more flattering style on me than any of the strapless or
spaghetti strapped numbers that the other girls were wearing. She is a
wonderful friend. I thought that was the sweetest thing for her to do all
that to have me in her wedding. She could have not asked me to be in the
wedding, or given me a different role in the ceremony, but no...she wanted
me there with her. It was a beautiful day and I enjoyed it.
This was my first positive experience in participating in friends' weddings.
In one, I begged out and offered to sing instead...
In another, she didn't ask me to be a bridesmaid, she picked her two sisters
to wear these skimpy dresses, then had me serve cake.
That one hurt. But she told me later that she knew I wouldn't want to wear
what she'd picked out and that she had chosen her sisters as her only
bridesmaids to avoid problems. She is the same size as me and so were her
other close friends. So all of us fatties served cake and punch...lol It
was a good decision, because we were all comfortable and happy and still
there to share in her day with her.
Just had to share that.
Leigh-Ann
>From: "tanya" <anonymous@obgyn.net>
>Reply-To: anonymous@obgyn.net
>To: Multiple recipients of list PCOS <anonymous@obgyn.net>
>Subject: no subject received Tue, 29 Apr 2003 13:48:40 -0500
>Date: Tue, 29 Apr 2003 13:51:53 -0500
>
>Angela,
>
>oh hun, i feel 4 ya, ive been in that same predicament. I used to be
>skinny, and i had a really cute figure. then bcuz of the pcos i just blew
>up...like 50 lbs in a months time...Anyways, I was a maid of honor in my
>(then boyfriend, now husbands) brothers wedding. me and the bride were
>always good friends since we were dating brothers and all. I had a hell of
>a time finding a dress...all i had to do was pick one out in a dark
>blue...i couldnt find one in a size 18 that didnt make me feel like a
>sausage..I finally found some in JC Penny's in the dark blue that looked
>decent on me. But it was July, so I had to wear spaghetti straps. Everyone
>was going to be at that wedding that I used to hang around with when i was
>skinny...And i knew what tehy were all thinking..("woah, she blew up! what
>ahppened to her!!) blah blah anyways, what i did, since i was sooo self
>conscious, is i bought a sheer wrap that matched the color of the dress! it
>was big enough to cover my fat arms and it l
> ooked classy and elegant as well! Tell the bride that you are really self
>conscious. I am sure she will understand. I got married in Nov. and some of
>my girls were bigger than others. they came to me and told me how they felt
>self conscious about this or that, and i told them that no matter what,
>they are beautiful. but if they felt that way, to go out and buy a wrap
>that matches the dress, and that was fine. I hope all works out for you....
>GOOD LUCK!
>
>Tanya Martin
> >From: anonymous@medispecialty.com (Angela)
> >Reply-To: pcos@obgyn.net
> >To: Multiple recipients of list PCOS
> >Subject: Self-concious about a wedding this weekend
> >Date: Tue, 29 Apr 2003 08:48:23 -0500
> >
> >I am a bridesmaid at a wedding this weekend - and I'm so nervous. First
> >off, its a destination wedding - meaning that its not in my friends home
> >town - its on an island in Florida. All the other bridesmaids are like
> >5'10 and skinny rails. And the bridesmaid dresses are strapless. I
> >haven't even received mine in the mail but I'm just a wreck about how my
> >upper arms will look - with my acne and how I wish I was skinny like the
> >rest of them. I'm thinking about getting that spray on tan to see if it
> >kind of covers up the redness on my arms - but I just can't believe I'm
> >having to wear that dress. OH, and stilleto heels. YUCK YUCK YUCK! I
> >need some encouragement!! Thanks!! Angela
>
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