Re: TTC and then NOT TTC and still feeling bad
From: sally (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Tue, 29 Apr 2003 11:05:19 -0500 (CDT)
Sonnet,
you are such a great person. you were the first person to write to me
when i first came to this site 1 1/2 years ago feeling rotten. Today I
feel so much better and have had so much progress. You started that
progress in a small but very significant way. That is not the act of a
person who is not good.
Your feelings are perfectly ok. With all the struggles you have gone
through you can't just suddenly have opposite feelings - that is normal
and to be expected. You can really appreciate your pregnancy and will
never take the priviledge of being a mother lightly.
Bless you and keep you and your hubby and your precious daughter safe.
--
Sally
At Mon, 28 Apr 2003, Denise wrote:
>
>SONNET, YOU ARE AN AWSOME GAL, YOU HAVE HELPED ME SO MUCH...A HORRIBLE
>PERSON WOULDN'T DO THAT. I KNOW WHAT YOU MEAN . I AM NOT PREGNANT, BUT
>I THINK ABOUT MY OLD FRIEND WHO HAD BEEN TRYING TO GET PREGNANT SINCE
>THE SIXTH GRADE, JUST TO FIND LOVE, AND TO THIS DAY IT MAKES ME SICK,
>ONLY BECAUSE, ONCE SHE GOT PREGNANT(BY HER NOW HUSBAND ) SHE STILL
>CONTINUED TO GRIPE AND MOAN, NOT TO MENTION THAT SHE SMOKED A PACK A DAY
>, THEN INDUCED HER LABOR TWO WEEKS EARLY SO SHE WOULDNT BE PREGNANT FOR
>HER WEDDING.IT MADE ME SICK AND STILL DOES. I ALWAYS THOUGHT WHY
>COULDNT I HAVE BEEN THE ONE PREGNANT?? I AM SO JEALOUS OF MY OTHER
>FRIEND BECAUSE SHE ALREADY HAS 2 KIDS AND ALL SHE SAID WHEN SHE GOT
>PREGNANT AGAIN IS "OH GREAT ANOTHER ONE " I WANTED TO SAY "YOU KNOW
>WHAT, I WOULD KILL TO BE IN YOUR SHOES".NOBODY UNDERSTANDS WHAT WE ARE
>GOING THROUGH AND I WISH THEY WOULD. SO I WANT TO SAY TO YOU, YOU ARE
>NOT ALONE AND I KNOW YOU ARE GOING TO BE A GREAT MOTHER. EVERYONE WITH
>PCOS AND TTC ARE GOING TO BE THE BESTEST( I KNOW ITS NOT A WORD) MOTHERS
>ANY BABY COULD HAVE!!!! LOVE ....DENISE
>
> At Mon, 28 Apr 2003, Sonnet wrote:
>>
>>OK I'm feeling like the worst person in the world today :(
>>
>>As you all know (like many of you guys) we TTC for 3 years. Now we're
>>finally pg, and couldn't be happier about it! But along the way there
>>were miscarriages and total annovulation and a failed adoption and all
>>kinds of horrid things. You guys understand all of that I know. And
>>you understand how awful it is, when you're TTC, to hear about people
>>who are pregnant, especially if it was a mistake, or took them exactly
>>one cycle off birth control, or if they already neglect or abuse the
>>kids they have. Or whatever!
>>
>>Well now I AM pg, and you know what? I'm still horrible about it. I
>>still don't want to feel excited for other people I know (those without
>>PCOS or other infertility issues, mind you) who are pregnant. I don't
>>want to be thrilled to tears about how they're having ANOTHER kid. I
>>don't want to compare pregnancies. I want to say, This one is so much
>>more special to me than yours will ever be to you! I don't want to
>>listen to them go on and on about how they hate being pregnant, are so
>>hideously uncomfortable, or how they are dreading the arrival of another
>>child. I feel REALLY angry when I hear tha and sick to my stomach and I
>>cry all the time when people go on like this. I thought all those
>>feelings would go away once I was no longer TTC! What's wrong with me???
>>
>>My boss (who fits many of the above criteria) had an ultrasound today
>>and was showing off pictures, and I just didn't want to even look at
>>them. Aren't I horrible? I'm happy for her, sure, but I just felt
>>exactly like I always did before - like I hated being slapped in the
>>face with someone else's amazing fertility. Does this ever go away???
>>Will I ever be able to be civil to pregnant women again and mean it? Am
>>I horrible?
>>
>>Sonn
>>
>>--
>>email always welcome: sonnet_fitz@hotmail.com
>>
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