PCOS Messages for April, 2003: Re: Babies: All a little too much today

Re: Babies: All a little too much today

From: Jennifer (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 10 Apr 2003 16:56:30 -0500 (CDT)

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Dear Mel, My heart goes out to you!! you and your dh are in my thoughts and prayers! I feel almost guilty writing. I struggled desperately to have my child. My husband and i went through every test and precedure possible and after years of fertility treatments we were blessed with our miracel. He is now 4 and we have not been able to conceive again. I remember when we were desperately trying how ANGRY (no ENRAGED is the better word) I would become, when I would see young girls pregnant or with children. I would watch talk shows where 13 year olds were TRYING to get pregnant and my dh would find me sobbing in my bedroom. It seemed that everyone around me was pregnant or blessed with children. I had a group of high school girlfriends that ALL had children by "accident"- this hurt me so badly. I can no longer look at them the same way again. The years of fertility procedures and treatments gave me something that those other "mothers" didn't have and wouldn't- an appreciation for my gift. I am a better mom because of what I had to go through to finally have a child. Whether it is a child that comes from inside your uterus OR your HEART you will only be a better mother because of all that you have gone through. I truly believe that! Keep that with you as you enter into the courtroom. You will be in my thoughts, let us know how it all goes!!! Bless you and Take care!

At Thu, 10 Apr 2003, Mel wrote: >
>Hi
>
>Please forgive my indulgent moment. My dh and I are really struggeling
>today. We are adopting after horrendious and unsucessfull fertility
>treatment, and soo want to be parents. We have been provisionally
>matched, which normally is great cause for celebration, however (isnt
>that word such a b*tch), this case has become soo complicated that we
>are now only 30% likely to be sucessful in adopting this little one.
>Aagggrrrrrrr! And to top it all , one of my dh colleagues had an affaire
>with another office work mate, and the result is a beautiful little boy.
>One of them actually said to my dh yesterday that it is such a shame
>that we cant have kids, as neither of them particularly want this one
>that they have, but they have decided to make the best of it. They are
>not together and really can't bear each other. We would give all we
>have for that chance!
>I feel so guilty resenting them thier gift, as that is in my opinion
>what children are, a gift not a right. It is so unlike either of us to
>feel as we do about other poeple having babies, as all of our friends
>have been blessed, and we adore spending time with them all, I guess we
>are a little over sensitised at the moment.
>I guess what i am really looking for from you guys is your thoughts and
>prayers, our court date is early next week, when we will hear either way
>about the adoption.
>Please keep us in your prayers, and thank you for listeneing
>Take great care
>Love
>Mel

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