Re: Babies: All a little too much today
From: Tammy (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 10 Apr 2003 14:58:26 -0500 (CDT)
Mel,
I understand your feelings completely. I was married for 12 years and
would have sold my soul for a baby! All my friends were having
children...and my arms were so empty. The last couple years of my
marriage were difficult. I learned my husband had an affair and this
woman became pregnant as a result. I cannot tell you how much this hurt
on so many levels. So...I understand how you could easily envy someone
else's gift of a child.
I am saying a prayer for your adoption. I hope your arms and heart will
finally be full. I wish you the best of luck sweetheart!
--
Tammy Jo
>
>At Thu, 10 Apr 2003, Mel wrote:
>>
>>Hi
>>
>>Please forgive my indulgent moment. My dh and I are really struggeling
>>today. We are adopting after horrendious and unsucessfull fertility
>>treatment, and soo want to be parents. We have been provisionally
>>matched, which normally is great cause for celebration, however (isnt
>>that word such a b*tch), this case has become soo complicated that we
>>are now only 30% likely to be sucessful in adopting this little one.
>>Aagggrrrrrrr! And to top it all , one of my dh colleagues had an affaire
>>with another office work mate, and the result is a beautiful little boy.
>>One of them actually said to my dh yesterday that it is such a shame
>>that we cant have kids, as neither of them particularly want this one
>>that they have, but they have decided to make the best of it. They are
>>not together and really can't bear each other. We would give all we
>>have for that chance!
>>I feel so guilty resenting them thier gift, as that is in my opinion
>>what children are, a gift not a right. It is so unlike either of us to
>>feel as we do about other poeple having babies, as all of our friends
>>have been blessed, and we adore spending time with them all, I guess we
>>are a little over sensitised at the moment.
>>I guess what i am really looking for from you guys is your thoughts and
>>prayers, our court date is early next week, when we will hear either way
>>about the adoption.
>>Please keep us in your prayers, and thank you for listeneing
>>Take great care
>>Love
>>Mel
>
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