Re: Babies: All a little too much today
From: Carol (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 10 Apr 2003 10:11:33 -0500 (CDT)
Hi there
I can sympathise with you on this one. We decided early this year that
we are going to start trying for a little one later this year which will
give me time to try and get rid of some of my excess weight (and there's
a lot of it!)
This week, 3 people I know have had little girls. One, an old friend of
mine, isn't with the father, and although it is what she always wanted
(she MC 2 years ago), she's wondering if she has done the right thing.
The other 2 are married happily so there's no problems there.
It makes me so mad to see these people having babies when I know I'm
going to struggle to concieve, if at all (my mum had hysterectomy at 26
due to extreme PCOS symptoms and endometriosis), and I see all these
gorgeous babies.
I went home last night and had a good cry about it, made me feel a bit
better but it certainly doesn't take the pain away which eats away at me
every day.
All the luck in the world to you both for next week, I hope it all goes
to plan and you get the little person to love and cherish that you
deserve.
At Thu, 10 Apr 2003, Mel wrote:
>
>Hi
>
>Please forgive my indulgent moment. My dh and I are really struggeling
>today. We are adopting after horrendious and unsucessfull fertility
>treatment, and soo want to be parents. We have been provisionally
>matched, which normally is great cause for celebration, however (isnt
>that word such a b*tch), this case has become soo complicated that we
>are now only 30% likely to be sucessful in adopting this little one.
>Aagggrrrrrrr! And to top it all , one of my dh colleagues had an affaire
>with another office work mate, and the result is a beautiful little boy.
>One of them actually said to my dh yesterday that it is such a shame
>that we cant have kids, as neither of them particularly want this one
>that they have, but they have decided to make the best of it. They are
>not together and really can't bear each other. We would give all we
>have for that chance!
>I feel so guilty resenting them thier gift, as that is in my opinion
>what children are, a gift not a right. It is so unlike either of us to
>feel as we do about other poeple having babies, as all of our friends
>have been blessed, and we adore spending time with them all, I guess we
>are a little over sensitised at the moment.
>I guess what i am really looking for from you guys is your thoughts and
>prayers, our court date is early next week, when we will hear either way
>about the adoption.
>Please keep us in your prayers, and thank you for listeneing
>Take great care
>Love
>Mel
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Love
Carol X
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