Re: Big, bulky, muscular thighs
From: James (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Sun, 23 Mar 2003 22:07:17 -0600 (CST)
Jane, I'm so glad my post reached you and lifted you. I'm sorry if life
hasn't treated you well of late. In any case, in addition to your
beautiful features, I'm sure you still have much for which to be
thankful.
Cassie, your confidence is inspiring. You've risen above the media's
lie regarding men's preference for skinny women, and you've recognized
your "assets" as a gift, not a curse. And yes, a big butt is also a
boon. If only more women saw so clearly as you see. Unfortunately,
socialization stacks the cards against them. My younger sister is
flirting with several eating disorders right now. The problem is she
has confused fitness with being thin. I am an amateur powerlifter, so
I'm fit, but not skinny. I've tried to tell her one doesn't equate with
the other, but she can't stop. Maybe I'll introduce her to a support
group. She's seen her physician, but the visit didn't help. I'll be
living with her next year in San Diego (english doctoral candidacy, I
hope), but of course I can't watch her 24/7 (not that this would make a
difference).
I'm sorry for the digression. Jane, I hope your outlook continues to
improve, and Cassie, I admire your confidence.
Tug of Boulder
At Sat, 22 Mar 2003, cassie wrote:
>
>At Sat, 22 Mar 2003, Jane wrote:
>>
>Hi Jane,
>
>This guy is telling the truth. I also have muscular thighs and I have
>never had difficulty finding a partner (attractive ones too). My
>boyfriend is handsome as can be (not that he doesn't have his quirks and
>of course this isn't really important but I'm trying to point out that
>attractive men also find large thighs attractive). I was always so
>insecure about this but over the years I found to my surprise that when
>I asked someone what they found physically attractive about me they
>mentioned that they liked muscular legs (even more often they mentioned
>my big butt). All those years of cursing those extra pounds and they
>turned out to be a 'big' asset! (pardon the pun). I can tell you for
>sure that us women are far more critical than the men. We critique
>every single party of ourselves whereas men tend to look at the whole
>picture. Yes, some younger men can sometimes be a little shallow and
>say things that hurt but usually that is more about their own issues.
>Besides they tend to grow out of it. I think it is us women who are
>obsessed with comparing ourselves and living up to unrealistic
>standards. Of course, when weight is a health concern it is a different
>issue but if its not and you're just a little bit cuddlier than most
>then take heart - men like us cuddly - despite media attempts to the
>contrary. Anyway, thanks for having the courage to share your concern.
>And you gotta love that fellow for his response - made my day too!!
>
>P.S. - Same goes for the extra hair - over the years I've found that it
>really is not a big deal to most men so let's cut ourselves some slack,
>hmmmm!
>
>I just want to say thanks, you made my year as sad as that sounds. Have
>>a nice day.
>>
>>--Jane
>>
>>At Fri, 21 Mar 2003, anonymous wrote:
>>>
>>>Jane:
>>>
>>>I am a guy. In response to your signature at the bottom there, many
>>>guys LOVE big, bulky, muscular thighs on a woman. Personally, I find
>>>them to be the most beautiful and feminine of legs. It shows a woman is
>>>not afraid of being strong and active. My heart always skips a beat
>>>when I see a woman with large, powerful thighs. It's a rare and sensual
>>>sight, but a welcome one. Oh, and I am 25, so I'm not from an older
>>>generation with potentially different beauty ideals.
>>>
>>>Be encouraged. You're lucky, and so is your lucky man!
>>>
>>>Tug of Boulder
>>>
>>>At Fri, 21 Mar 2003, Jane wrote:
>>>>
>>>>>From what I hear about this disease, from the many websites I've
>>>>researched off of, you can have all of the symptoms and not have the
>>>>disease or none of the symptoms and still have the disease. I am sure
>>>>most of the people here could probably admit that they don't have all of
>>>>the side effects. Like that one person said only 10% of pcos people
>>>>aren't overweight. Not everyone here has thinning hair, not everyone
>>>>has oily skin/acne, etc.. Everyone with this disease has varying
>>>>degrees of side effects from what I can tell. I hope this helps, have a
>>>>nice day.
>>>>
>>>>--Jane
>>>>
>>>>--
>>>>Some day I will find a guy who likes big bulky muscular thighs, right? :)
>>>>19yo college student
>>>>
>>--
>>Some day I will find a guy who likes big bulky muscular thighs, right? :)
>>19yo college student
>>
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