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Re: i need to know why i have so much anger ? why i get angry and mad for no reason and why i cant just let go in a argument instead of making it worse

From: Rochelle (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Fri, 26 Jul 2002 08:31:12 -0500 (CDT)


Louisa,

I wasn't sure if I could respond to this. I wasn't sure if my mood swings were as drastic as yours. So I asked the one person who would know. My Husband.

He is so sweet. He said I was just overly sensitive. And that things that wouldn't bother other people really upset me. As we started to talk more specifically about anger he said that I have acually hit him a few time during arguments. I was shocked. He said it wasn't that I was punching him or beating him, but that I would hit him away when he would try to hold me.

I recall in my early years of PCOS being so tired, feeling lazy, hateful, horrible. One minute my H and I would being driving along and everything was beautiful. Literally, the next minute I would being sobbing.

This just happened yesterday. I was laying around the house, feeling pretty much worthless because I still didn't have a job, when a friend called with a job lead. I got so excited, ran to the computer and faxed my resume ASAP. Then I got a strange burst of energy. I cleaned my kitchen and the upstairs. Then came cleaning the shower. In one bathroom we have this showerhead on a hose, great for cleaning shower walls. So I thought, "I'll just switch the heads." I got both of them off. I was trying to put the hose one on the different shower, and I couldn't. I am 5'3 and the shower nozzle was over six foot. I tried and tried. With whiplash pain still present I felt the pain start seeping upwards and that was it. I started bawling in the shower. All the cleaning chemicals in my lungs. Praying to God to help me get this shower head on. To beat it all my husband was late coming home from work, and I wanted him there. I fell so hard from my high sprits, and threw down the wrench and sobbed.

So, I guess alot of us go through this. My H says I get upset, whether that is angry, sad, or whatever about 3 times a week. And then he says "but I love you unconditionally." He says this is just who I am. But it's not who I am. Hopefully meds will help.

I suggest in a calm moment that you talk to your H. Set him down and tell him that you know how mean you can get. Ask him how he feels. And show him this site. And all of our replys. And ask him to help you get help. See a doctor or a psychologist. You don't have to suffer with this.

I know this post is already so long, but I have to give this last bit of info. When we got married our pastor told us how we should look at marriage. It is like a plane, and the two of us are flying along when the engine starts to have trouble. Now if we have parachutes we would jump out to save ourselves. But if we didn't have parachutes we would work hard to fix the plane. He told us to throw out the parachutes. Divorce is the parachute. Marriage is until death do us part, for better or for worse.

Good Luck Rochelle

At Thu, 25 Jul 2002, louisa wrote: >
>SOMEONE ANYONE IF (YOUR)= > IN THE SAME BOAT CAN YOU PLEASE HELP? E MAIL
>ME
>WITH SOME NICE HELPFULL HINTS THAT WORKED FOR YOU AND YOU THINK THEY
>COULD HELP ME TOO !!!!!!!!!!!
>
> WHAT AM I BI POLAR OR SOMETHING?
>hello my name is louisa, and iam 19, iam also married.
>i love my husband vary much but for along time now i have had a
>seriously
>bad anger problem!!
>its to the point where my husband is done with my treating him and alot
>of others like shit and he is gonna leave me!!!!!
>he thinks iam a liar when he asks me like 1)why are you mean so much?
>2)why cant you controll this problem
>well damn it iam not!i dont know why am like this i dont wanna be mean
>to my husband,family and friends!
>i would love to be able to just be happy, loving and anger
>free!!!!!!!!!!!
>but iam not! instead iam grouchy,bitchy,lazy sad because of all of it!!




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