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Re: Sex drive and PCOS
From: anonymous (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Wed, 24 Jul 2002 09:22:50 -0500 (CDT)
I want to really thank all of you for your help, it means the world to
me! I showed my post to my husband and he read it, and we haad a long
talk. I think it changed how he thinks about things, because we've made
love almost 10 times since then!! I am amazed, after years of it being
different.... I needed your support so bad, thanks for giving it to me.
I feel like we have a chance now! And if not, we're heading to
counseling! At least we have a plan.
At Wed, 17 Jul 2002, Jackie wrote:
>
>It looks like I left out part of my message. At the bottom of my post I
>was speaking about going outside the marriage being unethical and
>immoral, not masturbating. Sorry about the confusion. At Wed, 17 Jul
>2002, Jackie Wilson wrote:
>>
>>I have been dealing with the same thing except that I didn't look like
>>this when I got married. My husband sweared up and down that it wasn't
>>me or the way I look and that it's just him. He blames it on his first
>>marriage and previous lifestyle which had a lot of promiscuity in it,
>>and the way he has left that life behind, but I have a hard time
>>believing that's the problem. My mother who doesn't have PCOS and has
>>been married almost 30 years has had the same problem for the last 10 or
>>so. Maybe it's normal? My husband and I are in counceling for this
>>exact reason and it has helped tremendously. We are now intimate about
>>once a week, I would still like more but at least I am not feeling left
>>out in the cold. I have been able to not be so hurt by his lack of
>>desire. Sometimes I think my desire is very psychological. I want it
>>all the time because I want the reassurance and connection I get from
>>it. I have found that I can get the same thing from a really goofd talk
>>or a fun activity just the two of us. Playing a game at home or going
>>for a walk together. Anything that assures me that he loves me and is
>>interested in me. The sounseling is what got him to do these things
>>with me. Before he would blow it off and II would feel like everything
>>else was more important to him than me, eg: taking a nap, playing video
>>games, watching tv. The counceling got his attention and helped him
>>realize how hurt I really was by his actions and non-interest. Sorry
>>this turned out to be so long. I just wanted you to know that you're
>>not a lone and that you do have other solutions besides going out of you
>>marriage. ONe other little tip, my husband is very turned on watching
>>me masturbate! If you think yours would be too, you could plan for him
>>to walk in on you and see what happens!I have never heard of that
>>working for anyone. It's immoral and unethical enough to be on Jerry
>>Springer. Hang in there and don't give up. Your voice is your best
>>tool.
>>
>> At Tue, 9 Jul 2002, Mary wrote:
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>>>I had a similar problem and my doctor gave me paxil which greatly
>>>reduced my needs and wants. Its embarrasing but when I tried to stop
>>>taking it I became ravenous. Now I'm on Prozac since none of it has
>>>helped me loose weight. I take Glucophase 1000 a day and still no
>>>results. I just started the low carb diet so hopefully I'll know
>>>something soon.
>>>
>>>PS I knew about the PCOS since I was 12 but no one could diagnose me.
>>>I've had 12 gyn's in my life only the last one thought to try
>>>medication.
>>>
>>>At Sun, 7 Jul 2002, anonymous wrote:
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>>>>This is an embarrassing question for me to ask but I really need some
>>>>help, and I thought you ladies were the people to ask since you all know
>>>>so much! I have a pretty high sex drive. I masturbate at least once a
>>>>day. But my husband doesn't seem to have one at all. We only have sex
>>>>about once every month or 6 weeks. I am always tempted to think that he
>>>>just doesn't want me because of the way PCOS makes me look, but I had
>>>>all of these symptoms when we met and got married and everything else.
>>>>It's always been this way. About a year or two ago he asked his doctor
>>>>about it, and his doctor gave him some Viagra. It helps with the
>>>>physical side but he is still just not interested. We have discussed
>>>>going to some sort of counseling but I am too ashamed to go, I think
>>>>that anybody would just take one look at fat hairy me and think, well of
>>>>course he isn't intersted. Has anyone else had to deal with this when
>>>>they had PCOS? How can you face the right people to get things to
>>>>change? This is just killing me and is very hard on our marriage, every
>>>>year it gets worse. What about taking enough drugs like bcp or
>>>>something to kill my sex drive, do you think that might help? Please any
>>>>suggestions are welcome. Thank you.
>>
>>--
>>Jackie
>>
>--
>Jackie
>
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