Re: Ethics of a hasty marriage for insurance...
From: anonymous@obgyn.net
Mon, 24 Jun 2002 11:41:29 EDT
Jodi,
Are you a romantic/ can you be practical about it. I know that I couldn't -
definitely a romantic :) To me the day would feel fake & wouldn't be as
special & no you won't be able to keep it a secret. I don't know much about
your health system but I would look into short term cover.
Kirstie
Australia
In a message dated 24-Jun-02 11:17:07 PM W. Australia Standard Time,
anonymous@medispecialty.com writes:
> I think this is a 'no-brainer'- get the civil marriage done now.
>
> The whole concept of marriage is ceremonial- so it does not matter when
> you legally do it. It it the practical thing to do.
>
> I know so many people who have done this for all kinds of reasons :
> insurance, immigration, applying for loans,...
>
> The ceremony is just a way to involve your frinds and family- and thos
> who care for you are not going to judge you.
>
> If you look at the flip side- you can have a religious ceremony and not
> be recognized as married in the eyes of the law- you hvae to do the
> paperwork stuff. So there are always to parts to the wedding thing :)
> don't worry too much....
> At Mon, 24 Jun 2002, jodi wrote:
> >
> >Hey ladies... I need some input.
> >
> >My fiance and I were planning an October 2003 wedding (as you all know
> >from my honeymoon inquiries...) All of our plans were going nicely, we
> >had the location, the DJ, the caterer, we were looking into flowers and
> >cake... and then last week, we learn that his new company (we move in
> >August) will not cover me under the insurance plan unless we're married.
> >This MIGHT sound like a no-brainer but in the description of benefits he
> >was given, it said that benefits applied to spouses and domestic
> >partners. We figured after 3 years of being together and wedding plans
> >in the making, I counted as a domestic partner, but I don't. Domestic
> >partner only applies to gays...
> >
> >So, I see a few options here. One, get married right away civilly,
> >don't get married, and have a real wedding next fall. Two, hope I can
> >find a job with good health insurance myself. Three, Go a year-plus
> >without insurance, stretching my stockpiled meds out as long as
> >possible, and hope nothing too major occurs... (Or, I could stay here,
> >where I have great insurance, and move out there after we're married...
> >but that would mean more than a year apart and I don't even want to
> >seriously consider that idea...)
> >
> >Well, I have to say, option one looks the best. Yes, I might find a job
> >with insurance but what if I don't? Or, what if I find a job with poor
> >insurance? However, I have to say, I feel awfully dishonest inviting
> >100-some people to a wedding without their knowing the bride and groom
> >are already married... We're not looking at treating this civil thinig
> >as a real wedding, though. We'll get all the financial benefits of
> >being married, but we're not going to exchange rings, I'm not going to
> >change my name, we're not planning on telling anyone besides our
> >parents...
> >
> >Anyway... input here? What would you do in this situation? I have
> >always been a terrible liar, and this feels somehow dishonest to me...
> >but I don't know what else to do. I always wanted a real wedding, we
> >can't afford one right now, but we sort of have to get married now.
> >
> >BTW any one have experience with Aetna insurance? Good, bad, with regard
> >to PCOS?
> >
> >- jodi
>
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