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Re: Lost my baby
From: Anne (anonymous@obgyn.net)
Thu, 16 May 2002 09:41:35 -0500 (CDT)
Make an appointment with a lawyer.
At Wed, 15 May 2002, anonymous wrote:
>
>I was having alot of pain, cramps and irregular bleeding over the last
>few years. Also weight gain and facial hair. My doctor finally
>recommended a hysterectomy but could not schedule it for 4 months. When
>I went in last week and had it done, everything went O.K. but when I
>woke up the nurse said I had been pregnant and they removed the fetus
>with the uterus. I was about 13 weeks along. I am devestated, I am 38
>and had wanted a baby all my life. I never could have children because
>of my irregular periods and hormone levels and had finally resigned
>myself to never being a mother. Now that I find this out I am over the
>edge. I cannot fathom that I actually had a child, inside me that would
>have grown and become my own child to raise and have. And they took
>that away from me, without even any options. I cried and cried and they
>gave me shots to calm me down but nothing can make me feel better. One
>nurse came in and I asked if they could tell was my baby a boy or a
>girl, so I could give them a name and mourn their little life, and she
>said they couldn;t tell even if they had looked at that far along. I
>said, what do you mean "if you had looked?" didnt you SEE the baby when
>you removed the uterus? And I asked if there was any way I could see the
>baby even thought I am sure it would have been very small, and she said
>"we don't keep products of conception, we throw them out." Now I have
>nightmares of my baby being thrown in a trash can like they never even
>mattered. I have nightmares of me on the operating table and hearing a
>baby crying in the trash can and seeing a janitor come take the can out
>and dump it in the dumpster and I am screaming and can't get to him in
>time. I wanted to have a burial place for the baby to know we can go
>and place flowers and think of her (I decided it was probably a girl, in
>my mind). My husband and I went out and bought a lamb roast at the
>grocery store (to remember our little Lost Lamb) and we wrapped it in a
>pink baby blanket and buried it in the field behind our house. We had a
>stone carved with the name we wanted to give our baby, Clarissa Anne.
>And we put the stone at the burial site in the field so we can go and
>place flowers for our little Lamb on special days.
>
>Please don't get any surgery unless you have a ultrasound and a
>pregnancy blood test first. You might never get another chance.
>
>Cari
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